Quetion about seating - please help

jenmsw

We are now tackling the seating chart for our reception and I had a question - should each table consist of ONLY bride's family and ONLY groom's family? FI took "his" guests and did the tables and then became stuck with where to seat some people. I suggested he seat them with some of my family/friends, as these people have met and really hit it off during the cookouts we've had recently and my shower this summer. He said it shouldn't be like that. I understand putting people together who know each other, but really wanted to encourage the families getting to know one another. As long as we keep couples together, is it ok to have mixed tables? What do you think?

kristy2

It's absolutely OK and up to you.  Some people make tables of all one side, and some purposefully mix up groups of people at tables so guests have a chance to meet new  people.  I think your idea to put guests together who are getting to know each other is a solid idea.

danieliza1127

It's definitely okay since they've met and hit it off already.  What's not really okay in my opinion is completely mixing people up on all of the tables.  People aren't coming to your wedding to mingle and make new friends, they are coming to see their friends and family and enjoy the day with you guys.  So for the most part, you should seat people together, but if you have to put a few from his side with your side just to fill out the tables, then yeah that's okay.There was a post about this earlier this week.  Let me see if I can find it...

danieliza1127

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ffmaid

You should seat people with the tables they would choose to sit at if they had their choice. If fi's friends woudl choose to sit with yoru friends thats fine but if not donlt sit them together

ac_in_dc

What PPs said.  It's OK to mix up the bride's and groom's side, but only if that means that people get to sit with folks they know and like. If you want to make sure the families mix, I'd do that at the rehearsal dinner or a bridal brunch/lunch or a sunday brunch, if you're having any of those.

jhkh09

I agree with everyone else, but would like to add that you might want to ask your mom or FMIL's opinion (if you can handle their opinions!!).  My mom said she likes it when everyone is mixed up, and FI's mom agreed (especially since they only have a small number of guests coming up for the wedding).If you don't want the mom input, just do whatever is easier, keep couples together and mix it up!