Music Debate

Wendypoo82

I never thought something so small would turn into such a huge deal!My huband's father and uncle LOVE James Taylor. They have some emotional attatchement to his music. I asked the DJ not to play any James Taylor. His music bums me out, and I hate his voice. I don't how he found out, but the uncle is refusing to come now. Too much drama!!! This is my day to be happy. Why can't he understand that?What should I do?

torontobride17

Just add a James Taylor song to the playlist and be done with it.This is my day to be happy. Why can't he understand that?You're just kidding, right?

wadingmoose

Seriously?

kdcwedding

Your FI's uncle sounds petty and childish. He can listen to James Taylor all he wants whenever he wants, why can't he go one night without it? I don't get it. If I were you, I wouldn't do anything.

danieliza1127

Sound to me like you're being selfish.  Surely you can handle one James Taylor song played at your wedding.  It's your FI's wedding to you know, and his dad is about to become your FIL.  Learn to share and compromise now or you're doomed.

laurening

Really? Huh. There are some pretty extreme reactions on both your ends. Just add their favorite JT song to the playlist. Make sure you know when it's coming up and plan a potty break around it so you don't have to listen.

banana468

Frankly, I think you're both acting stupidly.To not come to a wedding based on the music that will be played is dumb.  However if he interprets the lack of James Taylor as a slight against him I might understand that he has hurt feelings.You're seriously thinking it's appropriate to say, "FI, why can't your uncle understand that it's my day?"You're new here aren't you?

crfische

Oh, poo poo on you Wendy. Play some damn james taylor.

kdcwedding

Clearly I'm in the minorty, but either way its a stupid thing to fight about. If he REALLY isn't going to come due to music choices, obviously you can compromise and include it. There's music I like but FI can't stand, we're leaving it out - it's one night, I can go without hearing 1 or 2 bands that I like.

danieliza1127

Besides, I bet you won't even hear it anyway.  I know at our reception I was so busy talking and socializing, I couldn't even tell you what songs were played and what wasn't.

wadingmoose

There has to be more going on here than just James Taylor music.  Honestly.  If not, you and your uncle-in-law need to gtfu.

wadingmoose

You're a year out.You've already determined and communicated your playlist?This is your only post?  What're you going to do if you have real wedding planning issues?

betrothed123

If you knew they liked James Taylor before you asked the DJ not to play it, you're a total douche.  I can see how they would interpret that as a slap in the face.As for this: This is my day to be happy. Why can't he understand that?It is not your day.  It's yours, your FI's and all of your guests.  When you invite guests it ceases to be all about you.  Grow up.

shellydiane820

Its not like the only music that would be played is James Taylor.  You're making the drama, stop.

torontobride17

Oh yeah, the uncle's being ridiculous too. No question. But you know how obsessive James Taylor fans can be...Play Fire and Rain!!! 

J&K10910

Ok, well first of all, you're being a brat.  One song won't kill you, I promise.Second, if uncle is threatening to not come because of a SONG, then I can't see why FI would even want him there.  I mean, grow up, for real.

atayk21

How sweeet it isss to be loooved by youu

arbolita

How can you not like James Taylor?  I love that man. 

ac_in_dc

You just call out my name, And you know wherever I am, I'll come run-ni-ing to see you again, Winter, spring, summer or fa-a-all, All ya gotta do is call, And I'll be there, ye-ah, ye-a-ah, You've got a friend.

shellydiane820

I also don't get how he can bum you out?  He sings happy music.  Its not like Emo music or anything.

CubsGirl05

It's very odd that you just happend to request no James Taylor specifically, especillay when it just so happens that two people love his music. It seems like you did this on purpose to cause drama yourself.

TheSaltyPeanut

LOL wading moose I love that it is OP's first post. I can just hear the thought process... "Where can I go for help regarding this damn James Taylor issue?" Uncle needs to grow up and you need to play a couple James Taylor.

wadingmoose

I think it's hilarious that everyone is focusing on the uncle not coming.   You did notice that FFIL also loves James Taylor, right?  And princesspoo knows this and still requested no James Taylor.  (From the dj she booked for her wedding in almost a year)Way to make the future in-laws happy.

Wendypoo82

His uncle wears alot of twead jackets which would be against my dress code anyway. I'm willing to compromise any day except my wedding day. He can go wax philosophical with some "Fire & Rain" at home.

torontobride17

Oh, well you hadn't mentioned the tweed coat issue. Now I totally agree with you.

ac_in_dc

Wendy honey, you're not real, are you?

wadingmoose

Tweed coats?Oh come on.

J&K10910

Well surely he would know better than to wear a tweed coat to your wedding.  I mean, it's your WEDDING.

danieliza1127

MUD

wadingmoose

I think a dress code is in order here.  Tweed makes marriages null and void.  If the tweed comes with leather (or, heaven help us, faux leather!) arm patches, well, there's nothing for it...you're doomed.Sorry.  I think just having this tweed wearing, James Taylor loving deviant in the family holds bad things for your future.

torontobride17

Am I the only one who's beginning to really like this uncle? What's his drink of choice, Wendy? Tell us more.