WTF and 2 questions

bablingbrooke

WTF: I get married a week ago and already they start sending me over the nest?Questions:1.  Someone gave us a lettuce knife at my shower; I remember it well because I had a whole discussion w/ the person about how awesome such knives are, how does it prevent the lettuce from going brown, etc.  I of course can't remember who it was and the person who wrote down the gifts didn't record it.  It's one of three people.  All 3 gave us other gifts; is it okay to not mention the $2 lettuce knife in the thank you?  I don't want to be ungrateful, but I really can't remember who gave it to us (the whole week of the wedding is a blur).2.  Someone gave us a very generous gift (our entire silverware set) but sent no card.  Macy's won't reveal who sent it.  How to find out who was so generous without sounding like the gift police?

bablingbrooke

Lol my ticker shows the wedding's just under a year away; it was a week ago.

shellydiane820

You didn't write down who gave you what when opening gifts?Also, I can't believe Macy's won't tell you who sent you the silverware set, I thought all registries did that.  Lame!

bablingbrooke

My aunt recorded all the gifts.  I never have attended a shower where the bride recorded the gifts (I've done so for a few friends in the past), and my aunt volunteered to do so.

shellydiane820

Did your aunt write it down?

bablingbrooke

Reread the OP: I of course can't remember who it was and the person who wrote down the gifts didn't record it.

baby green bird

The Knot thinks I'm married too and I keep getting funneled over to the nest. I think you'll be ok not mentioning the lettuce knife in the ty note, but I'm not sure what to say about the silver ware set. That's a big  gift to not receive a ty note for though. That's too bad. Anyone else in your close circle who might know?

shellydiane820

Sorry, must have skimmed through that part.

bablingbrooke

We're 99% sure it's from someone on DH's side (his family/friends are more well-off financially than mine).  That's about as narrow as we think we can get.  But that's still about 75 people to narrow down.

ootmother2

1)  It's gauche to cut lettuce anyway so you don't have to say a thing.2)  Wait a little bit.  You can probably do process of elimination.3) Congrats!

bablingbrooke

Thanks oot!  It was much fun.  I think I'll get married every year

ootmother2

that is one expensive present!flatware is about $10,000 for 12 place settings.  Wish I had your relatives!

bablingbrooke

Oh, we picked a $300 silverware/flatware set; DH and I couldn't live w/ ourselves if we picked something that expensive.  But still very generous.

shanwalk2

Congrats to you! I wouldn't worry about the knife... or could you ask your aunt if she remembers?  Or someone that you KNOW didn't give it to you?  Maybe it might ring a bell for them. In regards to the flatware... I feel your pain.  We got a super nice Toast R Oven at our wedding with no card and we have no clue who gave it to us.  We tried to eliminate, we asked a few friends if anyone had said anything about getting us one, ect.  No luck.  Almost 7 months later... we use it all the time, and thank the 'stranger' that gave it to us outloud.  My husband's solution was to email the entire guest list asking "who got us the awesome toast r oven?".  I didn't go for it. I would suggest asking some very close family members, privately (That you know got you something else) and see if they have any idea or heard anything. Good luck.

Moneypenny424

I have nothing to add, but wanted to say congratulations!!

trrouble07

why the fluck is it "gauche" to cut lettuce?

ootmother2

why the fluck is it "gauche" to cut lettuce?told to me by a professional chef.  Cutting lettuce caused it to brown at the edges quickly.  Lettuce should be torn, not cut.

trrouble07

but if there's a special knife that makes it not get brown, why not cut it?