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weekday weddings

Whats your opinion of weekday weddings? If a couple is in love with a certain day but it walls M-Th?

Re: weekday weddings

  • ootmother- LOL! that's crazy about Thurdays. That's actually what made me start this post though. I was reading about how weekday weddings are getting so popular because of the economy and as a perk (other than money) you can pick any date you want.
  • Well, for one thing, you'll almost certainly save heaps of money, depending on the venue. But even if you don't have a lot of OOT guests, I wouldn't start the event before 6:30PM, or locate it more than a one hour drive for local guests. Don't pick a vineyard or a beach that's a three hour drive away from where most of your guests live/work.
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  • Haven't a clue really.I remember in the 90s, Carolina Herrera's daughter was married on Thursday night at The Burden Mansion.copycats?  I don't think so, perhaps it just started the idea that it was totally acceptable.
  • I think an intimate wedding on a weekday is different than inviting 300 people.  A few friends and family members will understand - they are the ones that would come anyway.  But invite a crap load of people to something inconvenient seems gift grabby to me.  Oh, and I think picking a date for the numbers is silly.  Plus, anything 'special' (09.09.09, etc) already has a ton of people and the prices are going to be sky high.
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  • Personally I wouldn't have one during the week because it is a normal work week and getting guests to a wedding during the week would be pretty hard. If you have an OOT guests then they would have to take that time off to attend your wedding. Then guests that live in town will have to take off early has to attend the wedding.
  • My fiance and I really wanted our wedding on this special day to us, but it happend to fall on a weekday. I think we will always regret not planning it for that day just to please everyone else. Yes it makes it more difficult for guests however this day has to be special to you and your man for the rest of your lives, you dont want to have to settle on something less. Just my opinion....we settled on our second date but will always have that regret.
  • BTW...after all, this wedding is for you and your love, not your guests.
  • OOT, I've thought the Thursday weddings in NYC are odd too.  I had a friend get married on a Thursday in NYC a couple years ago.  Sadly, I couldn't make it. Getting married because of "cute" numbers is silly IMO.  If you want to get married during the week to have an intimate wedding, so be it, but I promise you it is unlikely I'll be coming to your wedding.
  • Really?  Your wedding day will be special to you because it's the day you two were married.  If that other day is special to you, celebrate it on it's own.
  • I also don't understand these other dates that are really special.  Like a dating anniversary or something?  Those get trumped by the new wedding anniversary in my book.
  • Exactly Moneypenny.DH and I had a dating anniversary before we were married and it even fell on a Saturday.  We opted not to get married on that day due to logistical issues with the family.As it turned out, that day was also an ice storm!
  • If you are inconveniencing a lot of guests because you are in love with a date, that's wrong and you will have a low response rate.If you are having a very small intimate wedding and everyone is local, fine.  If you are expecting people to travel, it's kinda rude.And before someone says "those who love you will find a way to be there" it's wrong and full of puppy dogs and rainbows.As pp stated, she had exams and couldn't attend her stepsister's wedding.  One of my stepdaughter's got married on a Friday at 5 pm and my oldest DD couldn't attend because she had a new job, was probationary, and the boss said "no".  If you are cool with very few attending then go for it.  If you are expecting people to take time off to attend, I don't think you are going to be very happy with the responses.DH and I have been together for almost 18 yrs.  We use our dating anniversary as an excuse to go out to dinner and celebrate.  2 anniversaries beats 1 anyday.
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    Mrscanes, I really really hope you're a troll.The reception absolutely IS for your guests, not just for you two.  What's the point of a wedding reception without guests? Your job, as the hostess of the event, is to make sure your guests enjoy themselves.  If you do want a very small local wedding, a weekday can be perfectly fine.  If you invite a bunch of people and expect them to travel on a Wednesday, you are not being a good hostess.
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  • DH and I have been together for almost 18 yrs. We use our dating anniversary as an excuse to go out to dinner and celebrate. 2 anniversaries beats 1 anyday. Exactly!  That's my kind of thinking :)
  • This whole TROLL thing is so silly. Some of you (NOTICE i did NOT say all, so please dont get defensive) are just way too focused on what other people think. The wedding is about you and the love of your life. Yes a large part is about entertaining your guests, and dont get me wrong, I am really looking forward to having our family celebrating with us. HOWEVER my main focus will be on my future husband. Its very upsetting to learn that so many brides focus more on their guests than the person that they are there for in the first place.
  • Mrscanes, I really really hope you're a troll. Whats a troll? [img]<a href="http://10.media.tumblr.com/5pM1Z5tqTo7kd9ak2ut4uxMuo1_400.jpg" rel='nofollow'>http://10.media.tumblr.com/5pM1Z5tqTo7kd9ak2ut4uxMuo1_400.jpg</a>[/img]
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  • My friend got married on a Tuesday because it was her dad's birthday and he had passed away a few years before. She had a pretty big wedding and I know a lot of people did travel from out of town but I think it was because they understood the importance of the date. In my experience, from my point of view, that's really the only good excuse I can think of to have it during the week.
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  • While I certainly agree that a wedding is largely about the bride and groom, you're hosting a party and need to be considerate to your guests.  If you don't want people to celebrate with you or aren't willing to make concessions to make the wedding work for the largest number of people (or for the most important people), then perhaps a trip to the courthouse is best.
  • Its very upsetting to learn that so many brides focus more on their guests than the person that they are there for in the first place.  If I only planned to focus on my H on our wedding day we wouldn't have had guests.    I'm there for my H each and every day of our lives. 
  • tlv204tlv204 member
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    We'll have to agree to disagree.  Last time I checked, the point of etiquette was to be a good hostess to your guests.  Go to a different board if you don't like it.  It is absolutely not just about the two of you.  Of course you should be focused on your husband, but that in no way means you should be rude to the guests who have spent money and time coming to celebrate with you.
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  • Weekday weddings are extremely popular in some circles for religious reasons, ex. orthodox Jewish weddings often occur on Wednesdays or Thursdays. If you are picking a date for its cool factor or because of a holiday, just be prepared for a small guest list and a lot of no rsvps.
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  • If you're really dead-set on Halloween (get it? ha ha) or some holiday like that, be prepared for a lot of people to send their regrets.If you have a larger guest list and want to celebrate with people who will likely say no M-Th but the date is that important to you, why not have the wedding on your special date, and save the reception for that weekend?Of course then you won't save money like you would've during the week...
  • BTW...after all, this wedding is for you and your love, not your guests.Its very upsetting to learn that so many brides focus more on their guests than the person that they are there for in the first place.Being a gracious host is really not that difficult, and it is certainly not at odds with being there for one's future spouse. Having been married on your wedding day should be sufficient to make it incredibly special. I don't see how picking a slightly more special date could be worth inconveniencing one's guests.
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