Invite from children question

mandanoo32

Alright. Since the wedding is a simple elegant family gathering. We thought it would be nice to list our children as the hosts on the invites. It would look something like: Jonathan, Isabella & Timothy would like to invite you to the marriage of their mother Amanda Marie to William Alexander on September 19th 2010 at xxxxxxxxxxx 300 pm

kissybee

I think this is one of those cases where you have to scrap "official" etiquette and decide what your guests will think of it.  If you know they'll all like it,then do it.  If you're unsure at all, then err on the side of tradition. 

mandanoo32

AH! Ok...... But how do you inform the guests that it will also be a kind of uniting of two families ceremony. We are doing a family vow as well. Alex is not my 2 oldests dad. But he wants to let them know that they are loved the same as our daughter. How do you incorporate that?

banana468

Well, those that know you will know your situation.Incorporate the uniting of the two families as part of the vows/ceremony.

ThePinkSuperhero

Why would you need to inform them?  Surely they know you, or why else would they be coming to the wedding?  They'll see what the ceremony is like once they get there.

mhande

Obviously, it's not traditional. So if you're worried about etiquette and tradition, "together with their families" would be better. Still, if that's what you like, I think it's a cute idea, as long as the kids are OK with it.

ObLaDi

I totally disagree with PPs. Who cares about announcing to your guests who's paying for the wedding? This is a sweet way to include your children, and I think you should go for it!

ootmother2

You're talking about 3 & 4 year old children here?It's not the matter of hosting, it's just inappropriate to have young children issuing the invitations.

banana468

Ditto OOT.  If you want to unify the family then great.  Your children aren't aware of what hosting is when they're that young.   It's not appropriate to turn the invitation into something that it isn't.

mandanoo32

Ok OBVIOUSLY the children are not aware of what HOSTING a party is they are very young. But the idea of an invite however is to inform and well INVITE people to join together? I mean correct me if im wrong. So exactly what rule is it breaking? I myself am paying for the wedding so how is it innapropriate? I am obviously not reading the same books as alot of you all.

trix1223

So mandanoo, you were actually looking for affirmation, not advice right?

mandanoo32

No. Just looking to see if others have done it similar. I do see how the children can not "host" that was a typo on my part in the original post. Since it is a unique situation i wanted to know what way to tweek it so it can include the kids. I am paying for this alone. So it doesnt make sense to put my or his parents names on them. So why  put " xxxx along with their families? How would that even work if one did?

banana468

Just write it in the third person.  "You are invited to the wedding of Amanda Marie and William Alexander."  Then make the unifying portion of the wedding involving your children as part of the vows.  If you had space you could write something like, "As they unite their love and families on X day,"It's not technically 'correct' wording but it's still better than having the children listed as hosts.