Back in December, a friend of mine got engaged, and asked me to be her MOH, although she didn't have any idea of when the wedding would be. I agreed, and asked a few questions about what she wanted for a bachelorette party (ie. relaxing spa day or crazy bar crawl). During January, she uses me as a sounding board, and frequently tells me that my boyfriend (and now FI) is still working out some "doubts" and that once he stops having such doubts, he'll propose. I repeatedly remind her that she is not my FI's confidante, and ask her to stop saying that he doubts me in any way. When FI proposes and I say yes, he admits to waiting a month to give her her time in the spotlight. When I tell her that FI and I are engaged, she replies that since I'll be planning my own wedding, I'd have too much to do to be her MOH, and she'll ask someone else. While I'm slightly upset, I also understand that planning a wedding is a lot of work. She later tells me that her FI called me and my FI "copycats" for getting engaged. She decides she wants to schedule her wedding for my birthday. I remind her that that date is my birthday, and as I'm a multiple, have had to share that day with three other people. I ask her to, if possible look at the weekends before and after that day. She later tells me that her church had the entire month open, so she got the day she wanted (my birthday). She also tells me that I'm going to be doing her makeup. 3 months later, I get an e-mail from a friend of hers, asking about the bachelorette party. Apparently my friend decided that since I'm her sorority sister, I'm still responsible for the bachelorette party. I mention it to her, and find out that I'm still expected to throw her party, since I "already started planning it" (I spent 2 minutes asking her what she'd prefer, and can pass that along to someone else). Today, I log onto Facebook and see that she's started a "send us your addresses" group, so that she can send her STDs and invites. My ex (he FI's frat brother) is in that group. Now, I know that it is possible to have a good relationship with one's ex, but I do not have that with this one (it was a toxic relationship and I never want to see him again) and she knows it. She's already said that anyone who gets upset about their ex being there can "get over it for 7 hours" (referring to someone else). Am I overly sensitive to want to step down as a bridesmaid and not attend the wedding?