flower girl troubles!!

PiperS

 i have 6 neices and 1 nephew. my oldest sister's daughters are junior bridesmaids she also has a son who will be 10 at the time of my wedding. my other sister has 3 girls ages (at time of wedding) are 8, 6, and 2 and my brother has one 8 year old daughter. at first i thought i could just have my brother's daughter and my sister's 2-year-old that way every family would be involved but my sister thinks that her 8-year-old will have her feelings hurt if i have her cousin and not her so then i could have them both and the 2-year-old but then what about the 6-year-old i can't leave her out so then i have 4 flower girls and all of my neices but not my nephew. i would just have the 2-year-old but i think that she is too young to go by herself. i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but i also don't want a million little kids in my wedding. did anyone else have a similar problem? what should i do?

Beadlz

I have a lot of kids I am close to as well, and choosing among them was difficult.  Why not have one or two flower girls and then give the other girls another job or something so that they feel involved, without having a troupe of kids walking down the aisle.

sassygal22

dont have ring bearers or flower girls. It makes it alot more simple.

girlyjock

How well behaved is everyone? I've heard horror stories where the small children in the wedding think that the day's about them and freak when the ceremony starts and they have to go sit down with their parents. Also, I don't think that the 2 year old would get her feelings hurt by not being the flower girl (most two year olds I've met have tiny attention spans), so you could ask your sister if the 8 year old can be the flower girl instead of the 2 year old.

kzsnyder

You could have one of them hand out programs.. or roll out your aisle runner.. Maybe one could be a junior BM...

MissSarah786

Don't have any kids. We have lots of little kids in the family but I didn't want kids in the wedding. FIL told his youngest grandson that he was going to be the ring bearer. And being the rude person I am, I corrected him and said, "No, he's not." I'm the nicest aunt ever.

Pirata13

We're not having any kids. Plain and simple.

MissSarah786

6 kids in your wedding is going to look stupid. I don't care if they roll down the aisle runner or throw petals or carry fake rings, it's going to be a hassle and it's going to look like a preschool parade. I would really limit it. Why not just have the two junior bridesmaids? There's no need for a ring bearer or a flower girl.

PiperS

i really want a flower girl and i think the 2-year-old would be so cute. the 8-year-olds are kinda old to be flower girls, aren't they? having a couple of them handing out programs is a good idea.

PiperS

i didn't talk to the kids about it at all. do you think that the 8-year-olds are too big? that was why i thought i would have my brothers daughter walk the 2-year-old down the aisle. i don't know maybe i should just skip it.

julie22685

Our flower girls were five and eight. Eight is a perfect age for a flower girl, two is too young. Six kids is asking for trouble if you can't cut down you should not have any kids.

ggmae

I have 4 little boy cousins and a little girl cousins. As much as I love kids, that was too many for a WP so I scrapped the whole idea and had no FG or RB.

duckie1905

We didn't have any children and it was great.  No muss, no fuss, no worrying about behavior, etc.

aprilrose975

You are asking for trouble with all those kids.  One or two are bound to have a meltdown. 

111Kate111

FI has 6 kids on his side he is really close to. We decided to have 2 of the little girls be flower girls and 1 boy be ring bearer. The other 3- the oldest about 7-8 are going to be "greeters" and pass out the programs. They are all so excited- their grandma even bought the greeters new dresses (almost identical to the flower girls but in pink) to wear too so they didn't feel left out. Programs is a good job for kids, IMO, since they actually want to do it. This is what worked for us. I don't think its too many kids- the greeters are only handing programs, they don't walk down the aisle or partake in photos etc. But your sister should not pressure you into having anyone, especially through guilt of a hurt child- go with what YOU want.

betrothed123

We were in a similar position, and actually had a few family members tell us their kids were going to be in the wedding.  We skipped kids in the wedding altogether to make it easier.  Honestly, it was the parents who were more broken up about it than the kids.

laboheme68

We're not having any kids. Nooo way.

Mindi1020

We had a lot of kids to choose from as well and we weren't going to have them in the wedding, but we really wanted them in our wedding, so we decided, we didn't care, and are now having 5 flower girls, 2 ring bearers and a junior bridesmaid. Sure, we're nuts, but it was really that important to us to have all of those kids in the wedding. You can't pick and choose though, so it's all or nothing.