vendor meals?

karenttrouble

Sorry for the multiple posts today, but I'm in the home stretch!  Which of my vendors get vendor meals?  Here's who I have:-Photog and videog def get them because they're there the whole time-officiant is not invited to the receptoion, so does that mean she shouldn't get one because she'll only be there for an hour?-Ceremony musicians are also playing cocktail hour.  This is a tricky one!-Guy running our photobooth (8-12), to complicate things, is coincidentally kind of a friend. We used to live with him when we lived with ten million people.-Florist would be gone really early, right?

clseale13

I would say that you only need to feed the vendors that are there when the actualy meal is taking place. If it's a situation where a vendor like the ceremony musicians are from out of town and have a long ride home or something then it might be nice to feed them too. If you don't have any situations like that then just feed who will be there. What about a DOC?

danieliza1127

Photog and videographer get mealsOfficiant should be invited to stay for dinner and should be seated with your guests or parentsMusicians - no meal, leave after cocktail hourPhotobooth - meal with friends before photobooth duties start at 8pmFlorist - will be long gone by then

kdcwedding

What about the DJ and/or Band?A meal is not necessary for someone just dropping stuff off, like the florist.

mandysmear

I fed every vendor.  I even gave my DJ  $30 extra to get a bite to eat since he was setting up before hand.

lyndausvi

photographer and videographer  - yes officiant - no ceremony musicians - no photobooth guy - when are you eatting.  If it's after 8, then I think I would.  but if it's early then maybe not. florist no.

karenttrouble

Right- almost forgot about the DJ The officiant is a hired vendor who I have no personal relationship with, and is thus not invited.

ootmother2

ceremony musicians also playing the cocktail hour, I would invite.They probably won't stay but it's a nice thing to do

lyndausvi

karen - my officiant was the same and I did not invite him either.  

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

I would still invite the officiant. She's the person who married you. She'll likely decline (because she doesn't have a relationship with you) but it's a nice gesture to include this important person.I'm offering to feed any vendor who will be there at dinner (DOC, photogs, DJ, caterers/serving staff, officiant, bartenders, etc.) They may not be able to eat dinner, or may not want to, but I don't want them to be excluded while other vendors get to eat.

lyndausvi

I disagree.  I see a lot of weddings with for hire officiants.  Very few are invited to the reception and of those none every stay.  The officiants themselves think it's an outdated tradition.  Why would you even think they would want to hang out with people they do not know and well most likely never see again?  If your are getting married at a house of worship then that is different because therory you should have a relationship with them if you getting married in a house of worship to begin with.

karenttrouble

Our officiant has already mentioned that she does not expect to be invited.  We considered it, but we hired her after our invites went out and we don't have any left. Even if we did, it is too late now because she is out of town and will not be back before our #s deadline.

betrothed123

Why would you even think they would want to hang out with people they do not know and well most likely never see again? I didn't make an assumption one way or the other.  We extended the invite because we thought it was appropriate to thank him for marrying us.  He made the choice not to come, which was his perogative.Our officiant was also the mayor of the town we grew up in.  He knew a number of our guests, which actually ended up being part of the reason he didn't attend the reception.  My H's uncle was his friend in high school, and our officant really didn't want to face the inappropriate topics uncle brought up about their past together.

lyndausvi

 My H's uncle was his friend in high school, So he really did have a relationship with the family.My officiant had ZERO connection to us.  I paid him nicely and he provided a service and then went on his way. I met him at the Rehersal (he was invited to the RD) and for 20 minutes for the service.  That was it.  Considering how many officiants choose not to attend I think they are really sending a message it's not necessary to invite them in the first place.

diggitydog

only my photog and the band members got meals.  in your case your photobooth guy should too.  No on the florist, officiant, ceremony musicians.

betrothed123

He didn't know about our relationship to his old friend until he showed up at the ceremony.  We had only met him once before the wedding.

laladypoet

I fed the vendors what the guests had. if I had a cocktail hour and had a vendor who only worked during cocktail hour, I'd serve him the snacky foods the guests ate during that time. for the photog, and other vendors who will be there the whole time, I'd serve a full meal. if a vendor is leaving before the meal or cocktail hour even starts, they get nada.I have no idea if this is proper etiquette though.