Invite or not?

crustybagel

Long story short, I reconnected with an old friend I haven't seen or talked to in 14 years.  We were best friends in elementary school and lost touch when my family moved.  Thanks to facebook and myspace, we've since caught up.  From status updates on these sites she realizes I'm planning my wedding and wants to know if she's invited or not.  I'm not sure what to do.  She wasn't on the guest list that my fiance and I agreed upon.  On one hand I just feel like, sure - go ahead and invite her.  What's two more people?  But on the other hand, we've not seen each other in 14 years and she's never met my fiance.  We've only caught up over social networking websites.  I feel awkwardly put on the spot too with her asking if she's invited.  I don't want her to be upset with me if I tell her she's not invited because we just started catching up... WWYD?

KA2

I would invite her because she is still your friend right and if you have the space why not? Have you talked to her often since you reconnected? Does she live in a different state? Could you meet up with her for drinks or something before the wedding?It's a good opportunity to re-kindle your friendship I think. For me if a friend of mine, even if we lost touch and reconnected, asked if she was invited to my wedding, I wouldn't find it rude - but that's just me. I'm 100% sure that I will not have met all of FI's friends/family that will be invited and vice-versa by the time the wedding rolls around.

torontobride17

Yes, very rude of her to ask. If you think it would be nice to have her there, invite her. Don't not just because she asked.But if you don't have the room or don't really want her there, don't. Just say what everyone's said about space, already made the guest list, etc. I wouldn't really care if she's upset - you haven't seen her in 14 years anyway.

C W

I wouldn't invite her. I was in a similar situation where I had recently connected with an old friend, but it was only via facebook and we don't hang out in RL at all. I felt awkward not inviting her because she knew I was getting married and we used to be really close, but I made it well known that I was having a very small wedding so I hope she understood. I also made a point of not facebooking about wedding planning etc so it wasn't in her face.

georgia_bride09

Now I want a warm, crusty bagel.

vallyhoo

Georgia, I was thinking the same thing. Although, I prefer toasted to crusty.