Apron/dollar dance

Mryan209

Really?I'm in banking and I had a newlywed couple come in to see me.  They proceeded to rave about their awesome DW in St. Thomas and tell me how they're having a huge AHR soon.  They then tell me they're planning to have an apron dance last as long as possible, pref. more than one song.  I asked why people did that and she told me "because it's a great way to make a ton of cash!".  I have only seen this once in my life and I can't help but ask, whyyy?  Because my $150 gift isn't enough?!Disclaimer: Cultural reasons are prob the exception.

salt78

[i]They then tell me they're planning to have an apron dance last as long as possible, pref. more than one song.[/i]I've never heard of an 'apron dance' but wow.

ggmae

My friend from PA did a dollar dance to make back some of the money they had spent on the wedding. Yup.

Mryan209

I hadn't either, they explained it to me.  It's a dollar dance, but to make it ultra efficient for the bride, she carries an apron for guests to put money in. Classic.

janedoe1113a

This should have been our advice to the girl on the budget board!

salt78

Oh neat-o. I hope it's like a lacy bridal apron.

shellydiane820

I just had a conversation with someone about dollar dances, and why I can't bring myself to do one.They are pretty common around my area, but I feel so guilty, and I get nervous enough being around a bunch of people...Whatever I can do to not have to enhance my social awkwardness, the better.

Mrs.B6302007

Big pockets = big money!

ggmae

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Mryan209

Salt, I don't know if the lacy ones have big enough pockets! We've gotta think practical here. Greed first, style later.

bel138

The way I've seen it, the MOH wears the apron and collects from the guests. And both FI and I are from areas that do this frequently. I've actually never been to a wedding without a Bridal Dance.It was a large fight we had in planning. FI has been looking forward to it for years and years. The way his cultural circle does it though, only the bride dances, and the groom is carried off by his GM. Then everyone dances around the bride, and he has to break through to "steal" me and carry me off to our honeymoon. I finally broke down and told him we could do it as long as the MC announces that we prefer our guests to write advice and well wishes on the provided cards instead of giving money. Sigh.

mandysmear

I  had never heard of these in my life until about a year or so ago.  The bride then told me that H and I should definitely have one!! "We made $700 at ours!"  Yeah, no thanks.

salt78

[i]And both FI and I are from areas that do this frequently. I've actually never been to a wedding without a Bridal Dance.[/i]I have never even heard of dollar dances until I started posting here. And I've never been to a wedding that had a money dance. It's interesting to me how regional stuff like this is.Haha great find, gg!!

ggmae

Salt - It was titled "A new twist" to the apron dance. I'd say so!

louisvillebride21

I mean...wouldn't you kinda feel like a prostitute? No sex of course, but you're still providing something for cash... They are the norm in our area, but I don't think we'll be doing one. However, its totally family only, so if they insist on us having one, I guess it's kinda whatever. If they're going to be giving us money, they might as well get their silly fun out of it. I'll just smile and pretend I'm having a great time...

gottahavashorti

They're common in my extended family, but for fun - the money is pinned on.  The bride and groom end up covered in bills and I've seen fake money during them as well.  I don't understand doing them for money though.

Kristi_M1123

At my sister's wedding, we didn't plan on doing one. But Grandma's brother asked the DJ for the mic and proceeded to host one. A little later he auctioned off one of the bride's shoes and whoever but in the last dollar got to kiss her.

louisvillebride21

I guess I never really thought of it...without the apron, where exactly do you put the money? Do you hold it for the whole dance, have a cardbox type thing on the dance floor, go in the garter, down the front? Where? Uck.

shellydiane820

I was MOH for my friend last year.  I just held on to the money and then after the dance I gave it to the bride's parents.

Mryan209

I agree there are cultural differences that makes these things ok, esp. bc then they're generally in good fun.  But when you're out to make a boatload of cash off your guests (that prob didnt even get a real invite to the DW), I say that's tacky.

zippityb

I think I'll just leave my purse out on the table so that people can just shove cash in it.

louisvillebride21

I think I'll just leave my purse out on the table so that people can just shove cash in it Now that's something I could buy into. I don't have to do anything, no pressure, just a nice little hint...But then you have to worry about some Drunk Mcgee walking off with your stash.

louisvillebride21

Haha, Bel. That's exactly what I was thinking. I know I'll dance with his dad, but the uncle is what creeps me out. Great guy and all, but he never left the 70s. Silk shirts, thick gold chains, chest hair....eww.

mwhitson14

I have never even heard of dollar dances until I started posting here. And I've never been to a wedding that had a money dance. It's interesting to me how regional stuff like this isDitto! There are so many things here that are considered regional. Like today with the groom's table, people made such a fuss over that, and they're the norm around here. My mom actually flipped out over my suggestion to put the groom's cake with the regular cake ::shock and horror::

KiKitheBee

at my sisters wedding i had family come up to me and ask me if i was doing it at mine. no thanks. it was bad enough having my bil skeezy family members come on to me while i was holding the basket for the money while my fi was 30 feet away. my family is ok with it i think. i know the one thing that mom is not happy with. that the fi is not wearing a tux to match my dress. why she is being insistent on that i have no clue.

bel138

that the fi is not wearing a tux to match my dress.Is it a solid color tux with a non-white vest? I'm pretty sure that still matches. Your mom would have a fit probably if she saw my BP. FI decided that if I get to wear a different color than everyone, so does he. So the BM will be in black dresses. I will be in ivory, with a gold sash and green shoes. GM will be in black suits with green or gold ties. And FI will be in charcoal with a black, purple, fuschia and red shirt.

SparrowSong

Some people really have no shame. I hope I never do anything to appear so greedy and selfish.To be clear, I really don't have a big issue with the cultural money dance with symbolic dollars and the occasional Uncle Joe showing off with a big donation. But it's when people really brag about it, and try to make as much money as possible off it. I mean, really. I'd feel truly guilty taking more money from my family who had already spent so much on me and my wedding/gifts/travel etc. Enough is enough. I really truly can not understand treating a wedding as a money-making bonanza.

KiKitheBee

bel. my mom is shocked that the fi will not be wearing an all ivory tux. my sister and dh wore all white. there is no way that i could subject him to that. he will be wearing a black tux with a gold vest and the groomsmen will be wearing a black tux with brown vest to match the bm dresses. yeah i know chocolate brown, gold and ivory totally original.......

bel138

All ivory tuxes kinda make me want to vomit. So, I think you made the right decision.

amber1011

On the dollar dance - I'm going to have one at my wedding because it is a family tradition on my side. It isn't meant to be a money making scheme (at least to me). I'll probably have some of the younger kids that come giving a penny to dance with me. lolWith the tux- Fi is going to wear a white tux with a tangerine vest. He loves the white tux idea because his father wore a white tux too, and as to his wishes "It must have coat tails"I'm not so fond of the coat tails but he really wants it, so that is what he's going to get!

zippityb

I'm also considering having my guests sit through a 20 minute high-pressure timeshare sales presentation before the open bar begins. We'll get a percentage of the sales!