EAD, stupid coworker!

scoetto

Recently my longtime coworker (8+ years) decided that I'm not doing my job. He took it upon himself to mouth off to our boss & the owner about my job performance. Mind you, I have been busting my @ss, as I am in charge of the sales of 17 states. He is full of schit, and even went to the point of blaming me for his sales & commission being so low! He also blamed me for his ridiculous debt and being sick, tired and stressed all the time. As you can imagine, I am LIVID! We used to be really close. I sent them an STD, and I really don't want to invite him or his family anymore. I know the rules (you get an STD, you get an invite) but does it really apply in this case? It seems as though he is trying to get me fired. And as far as I'm concerned, he can rot in hell.

ricksang

I say this is the exception to the rule for sure.

kdcwedding

Etiquette answer - send an invite, he probably won't come anyway. Real world answer - send an invite, and across the inner envelope/pocketfold/etc, include the personal note as per the subject line of this post. He'll get the hint.

Jesse'sGirl718

Ditto kdc- Send it, and bank on him not coming.WAFFLES!!!HTH.

ricksang

Don't send him an invite. If he is this much of a douche to you, do you really want to take the chance of him showing up at your wedding?

scoetto

He's just being the world's biggest turd lately. I don't even want to waste the postage on his dumb @ss. He was the ONLY one from work that was even invited. Grr...Jesse'sGirl! Waffles. Mmm... I hope we get to try out your waffle maker this weekend!

arbolita

Do you think this is something you would bother bringing up with him before the invites go out and be like Dude...WTH? and see how he responds?

SwedishChick2011

Have you talked to him to find out why he's doing this?  Some people are just a$$es...but I wonder if something is going on in his life.  Obviously, if he keeps up this behavior, don't invite him to the wedding, though. 

ricksang

You know you are betraying Nannerpuss by having waffles, right, RIGHT?

kdcwedding

Despite my joke answer above, I do agree with Ricks. Just because etiquette says you have to send an invite doesn't mean the rule always applies - don't send him one. On the topic of what he's doing to you at work, I hope your boss realizes what a good job you're doing and that this guy is just jealous or frustrated that he's not doing as well as you.

scoetto

I don't even think I want to go there with him. He told me I will die a very lonely woman. He went from dissing my professional life to my personal life. And seriously, I always thought of him as my big brother. But put my job in jeopardy and then tell me how much my personal life sucks, too? Come on!

Jesse'sGirl718

Okay, I change my answer.  Don't invite him.  You'll die a lonely woman?  WTF?

ac_in_dc

So  you're completely cool with severing a personal relationship with him, no reason to send an invite. Good luck getting the work stuff sorted out; he sounds like a douchebag.

scoetto

HAH! Yes, Ricks, I relize eating waffles is going against NannerPuss BUT! Jesse'sGirl got married about a week and a half ago, and invited me & J over to try out her new waffle maker. I couldn't resist!

Jesse'sGirl718

To appease the Nannerpuss, I GUESS we could make some pancakes too...

kdcwedding

Wow. It's situations like this that make me wonder what the hell is going on in that guy's life that he feels the need to lash out like that. Just remember, if he's acting like that, that means he lives a very sad life if he has to make himself feel good by lying/saying nasty things to or about you. You'll always come out on top in the end over someone like that. But it still sucks that you had a close relationship that he felt it was ok to ruin.

scoetto

Yeah, I'm definitely not feeling bad about letting this relationship go. I know he is having mad personal problems but to not only take it out on me, but to blame me too! That's where I draw the line. I could go into more detail about what he said (I saved the IM from yesterday) but it's pointless to waste all that energy on someone so negative.

ricksang

Pancakes AND Waffles? If you have blueberry syrup, I am there!

scoetto

Really, Jesse'sGirl, you're not helping out with this whole "gotta loose weight by Oct" thing. Ya know? Now I know how you felt when I "made" you eat all those yummy appetizers during at-home happy hour!

mwhitson14

Don't invite the mofo!! Btw, jessiesgirl and scoetto, I don't appreciate inside jokes!!! ::stomps foot:: I want waffles too dammit!!

Jesse'sGirl718

You're right scoetto.  Don't waste your time and energy on negative people.  Ricks, consider it done.  Knottie breakfast at my place Saturday.

scoetto

HAH! Come to VA this weekend, Neckie! You can enjoy waffles & pancakes with us! And Ricks, blueberry syrup sounds yummy. We might have to invest!

AmoroAgain

I say fvck him and fvck etiquette.

scoetto

Ah Amoro, and that is why I love you!

Jesse'sGirl718

Scoetto, payback's a b!itch.  Muahaha.

BecW2be

Make sure he knows you would have loved to extend an invitation, but you feel so guilty about putting him into ridiculous debt that you knew a gift would just worsen his load! What ashit. I hate him for you!

scoetto

Bwahahahaha!!!! Thanks, ladies, for reassuring my thoughts from this morning.

AmoroAgain

Ah Amoro, and that is why I love you!Schit, at least someone does!But really, I just wouldn't invite him.  I'll love it if he asks you why he wasn't invited so you can go off on his pansy azz.

scoetto

HAH Bec!