program question (i feel like a loser)

trrouble07

with 11 days to go, stupid minor annoying decisions and details are starting to get to me and i can't decide what to write in our program.  FI and i are going to do both the traditional "do you trrouble07, take FI to be your lawful wedding husband" thing AND personal written vows.  and i can't decide what to put in the program.  and we're not doing them back to back (sand ceremony between) so i can't just put "exchange of vows"is "words to each other" and "exchange of vows" dumb?how would you word it? 

Mrs.B6302007

I've seen:exchange of vowsthe vowsaffirmation of vows

ffmaid

how about traditional vow exchange unity sand ceremoney personal vows

CubsGirl05

Could you do something like "Traditional Vows" "Personal Vows"? To me, "words to each other" sounds like an argument or fight.

vallyhoo

Are you doing the traditional vows first?If so, I would word it as:Exchange of vowsSand CeremonyPersonal vows

trrouble07

lol cubs, i see what you mean

trrouble07

that's another thing we're undecided on, which should come first.  my instinct was that the traditional ones seem more "official" (or at least they will to the older guests, who might not have seen personal vows) so we should do them last.  but i dunno. 

Mrs.B6302007

you could use "promises" for the second set of vowsand then you could give Dove chocolate promises as your favors and send some to me  =-)

CubsGirl05

I'd probably do the traditional vows last, I'm nit sure why I think that though. It just seems more...natural?

CubsGirl05

*not

vallyhoo

I was only thinking you should do the 'traditional' vows first because listing it as:Personal VowsSand CeremonyExchange of vowslooks odd to me, not sure why. For some reason when you exchange the traditional vows first, then your personal vows it seems like it would flow better. But I understand your thinking of doing them last.

CubsGirl05

Aw, B, that's a cute idea!

trrouble07

oooh, i kinda like "promises to each other" ... much better than "words" (no fighting, right cubs?)so how about promises to each othersand ceremonyexchange of vows

vallyhoo

I think that sounds great.

CubsGirl05

haha, promises to each other sounds much better!

Mrs.B6302007

My first full day back and I'm already takin' care of business ;-)

trix1223

You can call the first "Question of Intent" or "Statement of Intent" as it's your intention to enter into marriage.  Then the second is called "Exchange of Vows" as that's then you actually say those vows to each other.

trrouble07

trix, we already have the "declaration of intent" part earlier