RSVP vent (I guess)

cravecase

So my response cards were due this past Saturday and we are now working on getting a hold of people who didn't respond.  So far I have had three guests who were invited "John + Guest" and they have said "I am still not sure if I am going to bring someone."  Is it wrong of me to think that if you don't know if you have a date and RSVP time rolls around then you just don't bring one?  I mean I still have a few days before I need to pay for my final count, but I would never send back a response card with a ? on it.  I wouldn't mind starting on seating charts and such, but some of those 'dates' might cause tables to need to be re-arranged.  Although I am not too worried about it, I just find it annoying.

georgia_bride09

YOU gave them the option to bring a guest without spelling out who. Just give the caterer a number including all the not-sures. That way, you won't come up short either way. And I can understand your frustration. People are stupid sometimes.

danieliza1127

That is annoying, and rude on their parts.  I would just be honest and say "I need to know by Wednesday because I have to give a final headcount to the venue."

Mrs.B6302007

You are right.  Guest decision should be made by the RSVP deadline.  Don't feel badly about telling them their time is up and you're putting them down for one if they can't commit to a guest.

Pirata13

No I would be annoyed too. I agree--if you don't have a date now, reply "1".

C W

Just explain that you need to provide exact numbers to the caterer and that you need a confirmation by x date. That is not unreasonable at all.

C W

YOU gave them the option to bring a guest without spelling out who. Yeah, but she also gave an RSVP date..

banana468

Giving the option to bring a guest doesn't mean that they don't have to decide if they're bringing someone.  They owe you a response for themselves AND the mystery guest.Just call and say, "I do need to get the headcount to my caterery by X date.  Please let me know if you're bringing anyone and what his/her name is by then.  Don't worry about getting back to me if you're going solo.  I'll just put you down as one attending."It's not cool to leave you in the lurch.  That's just as rude as me saying, "Well, DH may not be going but put us both down in case."   There are few circumtances where I think you should count the maybes as attending. 

lpstl

YOU gave them the option to bring a guest without spelling out who. Just give the caterer a number including all the not-sures. That way, you won't come up short either way.Wha? The fact that she invited people with "and guest" instead of specifying the guest's name is completely irrelevant. If there is a RSVP date they need to line up a date, or RSVP for themselves only. There's no sense in throwing money out the window because people are lazy.

cravecase

Yea, I mean I don't need a definite name (although I would rather have a name than just "Guest" for place cards) I would just like to know how many.  I know its only 3 people (as of right now) but that can add up if I pay for them and they don't show.  I don't care who they bring, I just want them to commit to bringing someone or not.Thanks for the thoughts ladies!

sillynut

Yeah Id be peeved. Tell them they have 2 days to decide & get back to you & thats that.