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Grandma.

So, Grandma lives about 2 hours away from us in a small town. She didn't want to go dress shopping back there so my mom and I went shopping with her where we live. She is not an easy one to please, to say the least. In fact, she is usually very difficult. We spent over 5 hours with her finding the perfect dress. Mom and I were literally running all over the department store finding spanx, matching shoes, jewelry, you name it, and bringing it up to her to try on with the dress. The dress was a long dress, in cream, and super beautiful, but she wanted it Tea Length. So the alterations person at the department store came up and pinned everything and was also going to help make the zipper in the back lay flatter. Grandma goes back home and a week later when the dress is done, mom goes to pick it up. My cousins who live in the same city as us went back to visit her and took her the dress. Last night I get a phone call and its grandma ranting about "How absolutely disapointed she is with the dress" and how come mom and I didn't check it well enough b/c the zipper is now worse than ever (when we DID check it- and it was fine!)" and how now she "hates the color and it washes her out" and thinks she should have went with a "darker" dress. *sigh* Does anyone else have "difficult" grandmas? :)

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  • No.  Even when they were alive they weren't difficult.

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  • Yes, but I have only spoken to mine about 4 times in the last 6 years... and all of those conversations were a half hour or less. :oS My attempt to stay out of the family drama.
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  • Yes! Except that I'm going to have to remind Grandma when the wedding is. She's definitely not grandma-ish at all. She travels a lot, goes to casinos, and bets on the horse races. Her social life is rather active, and thus far she hasn't had time to see my dress or talk about any other details. There will be several reminders that she needs to stay in town the weekend of the wedding.
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  • My one grandma is a miserable, bitter, old, mean, racist woman.  My other one is dead.

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  • I used to think my maternal grandmother was difficult, but that is what I miss the most about her.
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  • yes. mine is the root of all evil to the point that we dont speak and she wasnt even invited to my wedding. H's is a manipulator too, and didnt even want to coem to our wedding, adn only came becuase we guilted her into coming. 
  • Mine means well, but she can just be soo negative and difficult about everything! If you tell her something- she will find something wrong with it. I have stopped sharing wedding details with her b/c I got tired of the criticism with everything :) We are three weeks and mom and I don't have another day to devote to finding her a new dress- I m hoping she will decide to wear that one...
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  • Mine is an evil, nasty, biitch of a woman. I'm fully convinced that the reason that she is so mean is that she was born on Christmas Day and missed out on a lifetime of birthdays.  (hence the reason I'm hoping baby will be born closer to Thanksgiving, and not Christmas - due date is Dec 15, so it could go either way...) She will die a lonely death.
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  • At least yours bought the dress.  Fi's grandma decided that since we're not getting married in a church, that the wedding is nothing more than a BBQ, so she could wear shorts.  FMIL has talked her out of that one, but now she's put a $25 limit on her dress, so the chances of actually finding one... slim to none.
  • Oh! My G-ma wore a horse sweater to my cousin's (her granddaughter) wedding. It's kind of the inside joke now between me and my cousins. At the same wedding, some dude came decked out in a Harley Davidson t-shirt complete with flames. Cousin's RSVP consisted of a comment along the lines of "I bought a new sweater to go over my harley t-shirt... looking forward to the festivities!" At least we can joke about it though, right?
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  • You mean like a kitty cat sweater, but equine?  That's awesome!  Sadly in my family, there would be some very offended people.  My Dad's in the fashion industry and his biggest pet peeve the "Dockers are dress pants" attitude.  But the smack-down that would result from a Harley Davidson t-shirt would be comical :)
  • kissy, h's grandma didnt buy a nice outfit either.  not that i cared, but, how many grandmas get to see their grandkids get married?  if we have kids, our parents wont be aroudn to see them marry.she also blew off pictures.  we bought a corsage she never wore, and we didnt get a single pic with her.
  • Calypso, that's sad - were your parents older when they had you? I don't actually care that much about what she wears, (my Dad's career being in clothing does make me a bit snobby that way, but still) it was just that she said she didn't need to wear something nice because it's not a church wedding.  That is irritating.  And quite rude honestly.
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