I feel like I'm ridiculous...

dg7

I received a wedding invitation today, and FI (will obviously be DH by then) wasn't included. Being a month away from my wedding, I understand guest list/etiquette issues that come with wedding invitations. And I've lurked long enough to know the drill--send regrets & a gift. But why am I so peeved? Am I being irrational, or is it ok to feel a bit irritated?

CurlyQ284

In my opinion, you can feel whatever you want, it's how you act on it that makes it ok/not ok.

crfische

I'd be irritated, too. But not irritated enough to have it ruin my day.

angiebear11

Are you sure your FI isn't invited. If you're the one who is friends with the people getting married it's possible the only put your name on the invite thinking that you'd just assume that your FI was also inviting. Doesn't make what they did right, but it's not the end of the world.

ffmaid

Totally rational why you are peeved. It is an insult to your fi. But react with grace

ffmaid

actually wait a few days and amke sure he does not get a seperate invite at his address  

ggmae

If this happened to be and I knew the bride/groom well, I would just double check to make sure that it wasn't a mistake. If it wasn't a mistake, I'd decline to go in a nice manner.

Mrs.B6302007

In my opinion, you can feel whatever you want, it's how you act on it that makes it ok/not ok.Very nicely said.

dg7

Ok thanks ladies--I was just wondering if the irritation was from the fact that my wedding is in a month and I still have to do...everything.I am friends with the bride, but I think I'm just going to do as you all suggested--decline graciously & send them something.

diggitydog

I'm sure it was an oversight.  I accidentally sent an invite to one of my husbands friends Mr. Friend and Guest not realizing that he had been married for 3 years.  Give your friend the benefit of the doubt and assume it's a mistake and call her.  No need to let it ruin your day.

ggmae

OP - If you are friends with the bride, why not call her up and just inquire about it?

kissybee

I think I'm just going to do as you all suggested--declineI must be missing something because I see a lot of comments telling you to double check with the friend... I don't see any telling you to decline automatically.

saralynn.glessner

Check with your friend - it may simply be an oversight or a budget issue. She might have been in a position to either just invite you (without FI) or not invite you at all.

banana468

Depending on how close you are with the bride, talk to her.  No it's not 'proper' however why decline the invitation if the etiquette error is only that she didn't know how to properly address an envelope?

BubbleJ

If I got an invite addressed to just me, I would go regardless! Give FH a night out with the boys and I'd go to the wedding. It is very accepted in my part of the world, no one is under obligation at invite partners or hushands. If you know other people who are going I would call the bride and ask to be seated with the people you know, but other then that, go and have a wonderful time being happy for your friend!Probably not the done thing, but my two cents and what I would do!

dg7

Whoops, didn't mean to post & run! (I heard my Coach store was doing 20% off all items--bought all of my hostess & bm gifts!).I think I was originally hesitant to check with the bride because of the guest list issues I'm having with my own wedding (i.e. I don't like it when people RSVP for extras, ask for extras, etc.). But just because I'm having these issues with my wedding doesn't mean that it's absolutely the case with hers--I'll give her a call and ask about it...then take it from there!Thanks ladies!