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diving in poo.

That's what my day feels like. Like I've been pushed off a diving board, into poo. A pool of poo. Former very close friend and coworker and I have drifted apart. She asked for honest advice regarding a relationship about a year ago, I gave it - and she never forgave me. I'm not one to force friendships... and it's gotten to the point that it's super awkward. I feel like I've really extended my hand - but I can only do that so long before I am tired of being the only one. My circle of friends is her circle of friends, and I accidently found out this morning that she had a big bash last weekend and of course, I was the only one not invited. It's her party - and she can invite whomever she wants... it's just kind of a kick in the gut. The only thing that makes me mad is that our friends are dealing with the consequences. I just sent her an email. I don't know what it will accomplish. I'm just hoping we can be adults and civil. I don't know why that is so hard. Bah, this sucks. I need a brownie. No, wait, that's brown and reminds me of poo.

Re: diving in poo.

  • Sorry to hear that - I hate when stuff like that happens.  I hope everything works out for you, at least to the point where it isn't awkward for your whole circle.  Good luck!
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  • yes, being the adult in the situation isn't so difficult. It's just hard when I see my actual friends dealing with the issues. When people ask for advice and don't actually want it... I am not the person to go to. For real.
  • ice cream! perfect. I will now try to convince DH to run to the grocery store to fetch. I doubt it will work - but he's feeling badly for me tonight... I might get lucky.
  • ggmaeggmae member
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    Hey, she asked for your honest advice and you gave it to her. If she didn't want honestly, she shouldn't have asked (much like some posters on TK!) I feel like it's my job as a friend to be upfront and honest with mine. If I think they are in a bad situation or one that isn't right for them, I let them know how I feel if they ask.
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  • Ditto, ggmae - if she didn't want you to be honest, she shouldn't have asked you.  As your friend, she should have known that you would tell her the truth.  And as her friend, it was good of you to tell it to her straight even if it wasn't what she wanted to hear.  You only had her best interest at heart.
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  • Were you right about the relationship?  Did it end badly?  Is this why she is bitter?
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  • She married him. I attended the wedding and did my best to support her... not necessarily the whole wedding thing. She moved across the country to be with him -- and yes, I get an odd feeling that she knows I'm right and may have a tinge of regret. I hope I'm wrong about their relationship - because she is married now. I get the feeling she's pretending to be happy... and is mad at me for 'knowing'.
  • That's on her then.  If it were me, I would flaunt my happy marriage in front of her anytime that I could.  Then again, I have a slight vindictive streak.
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  • Ugh, friend issues suck. I think you replied to my sucky friend post the other day, too.We did the mature thing and put the ball in her court. Hopefully she'll be an adult. I'm sorry you have to deal with this!
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