How do people not realize.....

tigger9922

that its not ok to invite yourself to other people's wedding?  I kind of feel bad, but honestly, I shouldn't.  I ran into an ex gf of one of FI's friends.  We made small talk and I asked how she was, she asked how the plans were coming.  I tried to keep it short and then she says, "well I'd really like to still come to the wedding."  Thankfully, she said something else after that and the suject shifted quickly.  I had no idea what to say....intives are already out, and I doubt your ex will be bringing YOU as his +1.  Ugh. 

danieliza1127

All you can do is smile and ignore it. 

NicoleSahara

Oh my gosh! Who does that? Tell her you guys made a rule, no exs at the wedding. How rude.

kwilson02

Yeah, I had someone say "I better be invited to your wedding!!!" She was serious, and no she is not invited. She is my moms really annoying friend, and even my mom does not want her to be invited. We're keeping to friends and close family. When people say that, just say sorry my space and budget is limited to family and close friends.

ffmaid

"oh that is sweet of you but we simply can not invite everyone we wish. So how is your yoga class going? "

ndzenowski

OH! I do this all the time. To people I dont know even. I'm like "whoa! is that an e-ring? I assume I'm invited, I'm Nicole, remember me"

BecW2be

I honestly think people lose their minds when weddings come up. Or at the very least their manners. It's NUTS! Just Monday the irritating co-worker dropped by to see how my plans are coming and to remind me I don't have to even give her an invite; just tell her the time and place once someone declines. WTF?

louisvillebride21

That's one plus for having family only-we have a legit excuse for not inviting these people!

atobias1

I doubt your ex will be bringing YOU as his +1.HA! this made me laugh! You so should have said something to that effect.Do you think she really wanted to go to the wedding for the two of you or do you think she wanted to try to "bump into" her ex? I know its a moot point but I always think about stuff like that. Maybe its because I know people who are like this.......

temerityjane

The thing that gets me is that it would never even enter my MIND to invite myself to someone's wedding, or to add people to an RSVP card. I know people do it, but I don't understand the mindset that makes them think that it's ok.Since I was proposed to in a pretty public manner, I've had a lot of people call/email/etc to congratulate me and at least half of them have said they can't wait to come to the wedding. Since I'm still more than a year out, I think I'll be fine, but it's an awkward moment.

tigger9922

yeah, atobias, that was my first thought....and I want no part of that kind of drama.  Its bad enough that we will have friends who are recently divorced there.  But the difference is me and that girl are close friends, and me and this girl are just friendly when we are around each other....have never hung out on purpose.  I'm sure she didn't mean to be rude by it, probably has no idea how it comes off. 

Pirata13

Bec--OMG, I hate annoying coworker!  Can I punch her for you? Or at least send her a cookie cake that says "YOU'RE NOT INVITED" in icing?

BecW2be

I swear, Pirata. I've told her in 10032 different ways that she's not invited, including "You're not invited." She doesn't take no for an answer! I'm just letting her figure it out when 10.31 rolls around and she's here and I'm there. LOL

jeannigirl

So here's my story, Monday my FI and I went to some old friends house that he went to school with. After eating I took FI's and I's plate out to the kitchen to give to the Hostess. (Guys wife) So to make a long story short he asks how we meet and how long we've been together and are we planning on marrying. I said yes and then him and wife ask when and where. I told them, then he throws out "well you better invite us or I'll kick Gerald's a**.So I am like totally broadsided and I am standing there smiling and laughing and thinking "WTF" did he just invite himself? and  all I said is "Oh ok" Well its a year away and I'm not tripping it just threw me has this was the first time I met him and all these old friends from school.

mrs.readytobe

ppl make me so mad with that crap...they say stuff like...oh girl you know i'm coming....sorry I didn't cause your butt isn't on my list...like what you think me and FI are made of money to feed your hungry self...mad they need to go own somewhere....!!! ER.sorry that really pisses me off...lol

h.grant3

Tigger,My assumption on this would be that she wasn't asking for an invitation, she was saying she would like to come watch you get married; as in the ceremony.  I wouldn't dream that she meant she wanted you to send an invitation. I've had people mention they would like to come see us get married, mostly older people that are friends of my family. Some of the stories written are unbelievable, people are nuts!! lol, good luck everyone!! 

Pirata13

Bec--if I can get a vacation day, I will come to work and give her a singing telegram in front of the whole office. It would be amazing.

imgettingmarriedinoctober

People that are rude enough to 'invite themselves' don't even realize it if you are being rude back....just laugh and say "yeah, right" and move on. That's what I do.

sns3

This happens to me all the time! Latest episode: an old friend I haven't spoken to in about 4 years "friends" me on facebook and says "I see you're engaged! My address is X, address the invite to me, dh, dd, and dd's bf.  Oh, what's your FI's name?"I was like seriously? I "unfriended her"