Decipher my mom

Night_Sprite

Background: If FI and I are at my parents' house, he stays in a different room and will stay in a different room until we are married. This is mostly because of my dad's conservative nature.My parents offered to take care of my bm's room for the wedding because she is in grad school.  She's bringing her boyfriend, which wasn't always the case.  I asked my mom if they're okay with it.  My mom said they'll cover bm's room and bf's room is his own business.  I asked if it is okay with her/my dad if they're in the same room.  My mom said, "That is their business, not ours."Does that mean a. I don't want them to stay togetherb. I don't care because it isn't my kid.c. I don't mind but let's not tell your dad.Any ideas?  I don't know how to ask her more directly than "Do you care?"

Pirata13

I think more on the lines of c, or a don't ask/don't tell kind of thing.

mwhitson14

b. I don't care because it isn't my kid.Because that's how my mom is.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

I say "I don't need to know - that's their business". They won't know if her bf gets his own room or not, will they? They can make their own assumptions, and if they come out and ask directly, you can direct them to bm, right?Or flat out tell them to make the reservation for 2 people in one room and see how they react then

danieliza1127

I think it means b - they don't care because it's not under their roof or their daughter.

georgia_bride09

b. I don't care because it isn't my kid.

bbyckes

I'd go with b -- they don't care 'cause it isn't you.  It'd be weird for your mom to dictate the behavior of one of your friends, even if footing the bill.  How would she know anyway? If it's confusing and you don't want to cause any unneccessary friction - just ask point blank.

kissybee

I think it probably means that once she's in the room, what she does is her business.  We just don't want to watch them walk in together at midnight.

Mrs.B6302007

That sounds like an 'a' to me along the lines of "Of course they shouldn't stay together but they're adults and since it's not my choice to make, what I don't know can't hurt me." kind of answer.

karenttrouble

b with a little bit of "now that you're getting married, i don't worry about people your age getting knocked up anymore"

dianenjnj

a combo b/cunless by "covering her room" you mean your bm will be staying at your parents home...if that is the case, boyfriend will have to find a hotel room.

Calypso1977

i think it meant the bm can stay, not the bf. i know my parents didnt let any unwed couples share a room in their home, regardles of whether they were family or friends.