Ex-spouses at a wedding (pollish)

smokeybailey

In a post below, someone was asking about inviting the baby mama to the wedding because said baby was invited.  Reactions were mixed and I don't think you need to invite the other parent.  Would you invite an ex husband or wife because there was shared children?  What if there was not?Anyone invite ex-BF's or GF's to their wedding?  (kids or no kids)

tidetravel

Depends on the relationship.  If it's cordial/friendly, sure.  If baby's mama threatened me with a restraining order, that would be a no-go.

temerityjane

Buddy isn't comfortable with the idea of any of my exes being there, and I'm not so close with any of them that they'd warrant an invite, so no big deal.As I mentioned in another post, as for HIS ex-wife... she lives here. With us. And I don't care. She's not invited.

shellydiane820

We both have exes we're friends with and inviting, however it is the first wedding for both of us.  I would imagine I might think differently on a previous spouse.  I guess it depends on the relationship.

wadingmoose

I think that ex's are a definite point to draw the line.  I'm still somewhat friendly with my ex husband, he's still in frequent contact with my parents and my brother and his family.  But, I won't invite him to the wedding.  It should be obvious why.

ricksang

I invited my H's ex and her daughter to our wedding. I like them both and the daughter sees my H as a father since she doesn't have a real one. I would be a complete a$$hole for destroying their relationship.

ac_in_dc

Invite an ex-husband to your wedding? Oh god, no. Ex-BFs? When I was younger, maybe, it seems like college boyfriends and the like usually run in your friend posse and there can be history without a lot of hard feelings. At this stage in my life I have enough friends that I don't need to be buddy-buddy with my exes, even though I wish them the best. Too much work.

GeekGurl

Would you invite an ex husband or wife because there was shared children? What if there was not?-- Probably not.  Depends on the relationship. Anyone invite ex-BF's or GF's to their wedding? (kids or no kids)-- No, we didn't even though one of my exes is a mutual "friend".  I was afraid he would make inappropriate comments.

ac_in_dc

I guess there may be a special case where it's someone you parented with and the relationship was cordial, etc. but it still seems odd to me. It may work for some folks though.

tlv204

We actually invited 2 of my exes to the wedding, both were very short relationships (def. not marriages) and we were all friends. Only one of them came.  If kids are involved, at the risk of sounding a bit detached, I think it depends an awful lot on the custody agreement and whether or not the mom would actually prevent the child from attending, but in general, no I would not invite the mom.

blenderdance

I don't know if I would invite an ex husband/wife to a wedding--it would depend on the circumstances and relationship. FI has an ex-girlfriend coming to the wedding...but they "dated" in 6th grade, so it doesn't count...we just like to make fun of them (they were each other's first kisses...awww...)

karma007

No way. For starters, a baby won't care if it misses the wedding, and if the did did want the kid there, couldn't another family member manage the child? That would just be wierd...

mandysmear

If I was friends with an ex, sure they would have been invited.  But, I am not friends with any exes.  I mean in highschool there were some drunken make out sessions with my guy friends (most who I am still friends with), but that's different. 

Mrs.B6302007

Inviting my exH to my wedding.... So, what's the address for hell anyway?

lpstl

Hard for me to have an opinion on inviting ex spouses, since I don't have any. I guess if there were young children involved and we were friendly I might. Still seems weird though.I'm actually going to an ex's wedding next weekend. We've always run in the same circle of friends, because we met them together (we're both from nashville, and moved to STL together). After we broke up we decided to rent a house together with a mutual friend (breakup was very amicable), that's how I met H, and when he started dating his soon to be wife. This was all close to ten years ago though, he was my highschool bf.

scoetto

I'm still friends with my last ex, and actually J is too. They hang out & do stuff together when I'm not around. They also talk about personal stuff. Is he getting an invite? You bet your sweet bippy! He was my longest relationship before J but we realized we were more bffs than anything and kept it that way. It's working out quite well.

banana468

It would really depend - but I chose not to invite my cousin's ex-wife and the mother of his child to my wedding.I invited him with his current spouse and child.  The ex was no longer a member of the family or social unit. 

Kati0105

Neither FI or I have been married but he is inviting some of his ex-GFs to our wedding.  It really bothered me a lot when it first came up, but now that the wedding gets closer I realize he is marrying me and it doesn't really matter who else he dated or slept with in the past.

JuliaGoolia719

we attended DF's ex girlfriends wedding last Jan and they are invited to ours.  They have a group of mutual friends from both high school and college.  She and her husband moved out of Lawrence right as DF and I started dating, every time she is back in town we all get together in a group and catch up, I actually went to her bachelorette party as well.  The reason it works for us is that I never knew them as a couple, they were both over each other and had moved on so there was no "aw what if" factor for either of them.  Now DF has another exgf that I refer to as the "sloot faced wh0re bag" --shes not invited to the wedding.

timmysgal1

my H is divorced.  we did not invite his ex wife.  we actually never really called her to say we were engaged.  they don't have that type of personal life sharing relationship.  they only talk about their kid and their kids schedule, health, life, etc.but, his ex wife did call my H before the wedding to ask what time the rehearsal would be so that she could figure if their daughter could attend an event during the morning/afternoon of the day of the rehearsal.  i appreciated that. 

NuggetBrain

He was my first boyfriend, so I don't have any exes to invite. However, we are inviting his ex girlfriend and her husband - she's a cool chick and they're still friends. We went to her wedding as well, and we always get Christmas cards and stuff from her. They dated in high school and since we're 2, its been long enough that there isn't any wierdness or anything.

salt78

Two of my exes and at least one of his are coming to our party when we get back. One of my exes is one of FI's best friends. (I dated him before either of us knew him.)

BecW2be

Hell no. Hell no again.No.

Sooles

one of my ex bf of 2.5 years is a groomsman, AND the guy who i lived with for 2 years before fi is invited. we are a very close knit group of friends who have basically grown up together, and we dont let past relationships and breakups get in the way of everyone being friends.

futurecdobs

Please tell me my reading comprehension skills are off tonight.As I mentioned in another post, as for HIS ex-wife... she lives here. With us. And I don't care. She's not invited.I have not seen this referenced post because I haven't been on much the past couple of days - but is that legit?

bbyckes

I'm inviting my son's father - we're friends.  FI and him are friends.  It's a very friendly situation.  Some of my ex's family is coming too.

sarabellam

Hmm, well. Without getting too Jerry Springer, when my ex-husband married my ex-best friend, I was originally invited to their wedding (my ex-h actually had the testicular fortitude to ask me if I would make their cake; I told him he couldn't afford me anymore). I ended up having to drive our daughters to his wedding location, then kill about 6 hours until I could bring them home again. I was as gracious as I could be under the circumstances; I wished them both all the happiness they deserved.

Junebug060609

We invited DHs ex-wife and an ex-gf to the wedding.  No kids in either case, well, not with him anyways.

timmysgal1

let me also say that we got engaged New Years Eve and around January 10 my husband's ex wife called him to tell him that she was getting divorced and suspected it woudl be very hard on their daughter because she was attached to stepdad.  So my husband didn't feel it was the appropriate time to discuss his new engagement, so it never really was discussed. it might have been discussed otherwise, but he didn't want to throw it in his ex's face. 

temerityjane

futurecdobs - You read that right. He's at work, I'm working in the bedroom, and she's downstairs on the couch, where she always is, watching television.