What to wear - Pentacostal wedding

AntiBride07

My SIL is getting married; she and her FI are Pentecostal. I was planning on wearing a black asymmetrical dress (shortest part is just above the knees) that has thick tank straps. SIL is crazy and not forthcoming with information about the wedding so I refuse to ask her what I should wear. Do you think think this dress would be ok to wear? I don't care if SIL approves but I do want to be respectful of what I wear in the church.

zippityb

Don't they wear full length dresses/skirts? Or is that another sect?

bbyckes

I would dress modest.  I would not show arms and almost no leg. 

ricksang

I agree with Z. You most likely need a full length skirt and jacket or sleeves.

ivystar57

based on a little google research and no other personal information, I would say as modestly as possible.  The point is to not draw attention away from God or flaunt wealth, so skin, jewelry, anything flashy, etc is typically discouraged.

squirrly

My great-grandmother was pentecostal.  I'd wear a long dress/skirt, and at least have your shoulders covered.  She wore short sleeves in the heat, so I don't think long sleeves are required. 

ffmaid

Wear a cardigan with it. that way you can be more modest is everyone else is and ditch the cardigan if tank straps are fine

AntiBride07

Yikes, well I guess that won't happen as I don't have anything that would fit their guidelines and with travel to the wedding there is no time to go shopping. I realize I won't be dressing like them (which wasn't my intent) but do you think as a guest something a bit more modest (but not long sleeve and full-length) would be acceptable?

Puppylove*85

I would try to find a full-length dress with some sort of sleeve or a jacket.  Makeup and jewelry should be kept to a minimum.  The reception will probably not have alcohol or dancing either.

SwedishChick2011

What you're planning to wear sounds fine to me.  Then again, I'm not Pentecostal.  However, I can't imagine every lady there is going to be wearing a long dress.  If it was a big deal where you wear, it would be B&G's responsibility to tell you IMO.  Otherwise, how could you be expected to know?

zippityb

If you don't want to buy anything, you may want to borrow a long skirt from someone. Do you think your SIL would have something you could wear?

danieliza1127

I was raised Pentacostal until my parents divorced, actually my grandfather and dad are/were Pentecostal preachers.  In their church, women ONLY wore long skirts and had to have long hair and couldn't wear make-up.  If it's that type of church, I would suggest you were something much more modest than what you described, or wear a cardigan over it and then you can take that off at the reception if you want to.

Leah&Christian09

I dated a guy who was pentacostal for a long time.  The women all wore dresses in church, mostly below the knee, but not always full length.  I think that dress would be fine if you put a cardigan over it for the ceremony.  If it was a strict dress code, she would have mentioned it somewhere.

SunnyCanadian

That's crazy - maybe there are different Pentecostal sects or something out there but I'm pentecostal and we can wear anything we want! Short skirts, cleavage, tank tops, jeans, anything! And all the pentecostal churches in my city are like that. If you were attending a wedding at my church, your outfit would be perfect!

diva1397

One of my good friends is pentecostal.  I was a BM in her wedding, and she was a BM in mine.  Around here, pentecostals wear skirts/dresses up to knee length and short sleeves.  I wore jewelry in her wedding, and make up just as usual.  (She was in my wedding, and wore a knee-length dress and no makeup or jewelry.)  The pentecostals I know don't expect non-pentecostals to dress like them.  I live in the deep South, and her father is a pentecostal preacher.That said, your outfit sounds fine.  Bring a cardigan if you feel like it, but honestly, I wouldn't worry.  They can't force their religious/cultural beliefs on you.

KA2

I'm Pentecostal - just above the knees is fine (sometimes ladies in my church have an extra scarf to put over their knees when they seat in the church because outfits look shorter when you seat.Some Pentecostals are more liberal than others in terms of tank straps, however I would wear a bolero jacket to cover up my arms.