Buldging Brides

NuggetBrain

As far as thin women having body issues - I agree, everybody has them. But I'm sorry, as a 180 pound woman I don't want to hear a 125 pound woman constantly complaining to me about her fat thighs or jiggly stomach. Would you complain to a blind guy about how your eyes hurt from looking at the computer all day? I have a thin BF (my MOH, actually). I'm the biggest one out of my entire wedding party, and I'm totally fine with listening to them talk about wanting to get more fit, to tighten up, to get back to the gym. Or that they feel bloated today or fat today. But I would be the first to tell them knock it off if they kept fussing about their tummy fat that nobody sees but them.

NuggetBrain

Jane - exactly. That's how those things make money - people lose a bunch of weight, go off the food, gain it back, go back on the food....its a nasty cycle. Hell, look at Kristie Alley.

agk0125

But the other thing that bothers me, is that this show doesn't sound like it does anything to teach these women proper eating habitsIn the show's defense they have them keep a diary for a week on what the normally eat and then they show them the mistakes they are making.The girl right now actually had her dress MADE two sizes too small. Outrageous.

temerityjane

Man, Nugget, I am all in your brain today. I agree exactly what you said about thin women.My sister has always been extremely thin. She puts on a little beer pooch every now and then, but she's about 5'5" and I don't think she's ever crossed 120 in her life. She has just as many body insecurities as I do (she's got low boobs!).What killed me though, was my college roommate. Again, I accept that she had body insecurities. But in college, when I was at my absolute heaviest, she (I'd say maybe a size 6?) would stand in front of the mirror and go on and on about how fat and disgusting she was. I, being a size, I dunno 18ish, maybe even 20, at the time, said to her, "Well, if you're fat, then what am I?" To which she replied "Oh... well, you look fine."See, then you're just insane. I'll listen all about your hard-to-shed tummy pooch or your flat butt or your wavy underarms or your low-boobs, but tell me you're fat and disgusting (but oh, I'm fiiiine) and that's just delusion speaking.

veronabrit

teremity- i have a friend like this too...super thin and always say she is fat. I am thin too, but not as thin as her. I have just come to learn to ignore her comments about her own weight because trust me, she is not saying it to make me feel bad, she just is very insecure and needs reassurance, probably like your friend in college.

NuggetBrain

Yeah, but keeping a food diary for a week still isn't really giving them the tools to completely overhaul their eating habits and exercise habits. This is what I think as far as the show. There are only two options. 1) The bride really is overweight, and needs help losing weight, exercising, and being taught all the tools and things needed to make a complete life change and begin living healthy. Which a one week food diet and a 6 week boot camp instructor will not show you. 2) The bride is not overweight, but is a moron who bought a dress to small because they thought they could crash diet their way into it, they realized they couldn't and panicked, where the show comes in. Because if they really were healthy, they would have known how long it would realistically taken them to lose the weight, and if any weight loss at all was healthy or probable, and bought the appropriately sized dress.

temerityjane

veronabrit - I agree, and I came to realize the same thing when she found her reassurance in the arms of many, many men. Definitely other issues going on.I have no problem at all with thin women, at ALL. In fact, watching More to Love (yeah, yeah), I went on a rant to Buddy about how so many of the women were referring to smaller women as "skinny biitches" and calling themselves the "real" women.Something I would like to never, ever hear said again: "Well the average size of a woman today is a 14" as a justification for being overweight. Just because it's the average does not make it any less unhealthy to be significantly above your medically ideal body weight.I have now apparently taken my ranting in a totally different direction.

nooniesinlove

The girl right now actually had her dress MADE two sizes too small. Outrageous.^ THIS is the attitude that I'm irritated about.  Practices such as these should not be rewarded by letting the girl on TV and giving her an intensive workout.  The girl should be buying herself a new dress.Hopefully the people watching the show realize what a moron she is.

SpringBride1114

Haha I find it funny I turned it on, came to the computer and this is what I saw. I hate when they do the walk of shame or whatever.. unless you eat like a bird, it is going to looks like a TON of food for an entire week. I watch this show for the same reason I watch all those wedding shows, because I am a sucker for crappy tv

temerityjane

Oh, and this, of course, is coming from someone who is significantly over her medically ideal bodyweight.AND I don't think there's anything wrong with being a size 14... 16... 18... whatever. Wherever you feel best and are healthy, fine.I'm just sick of hearing that as a justification.

anna.oskar

It all makes me sad.  Whether you are a size 4 or a size 20, I think most women have insecurity issues. Not all are weight of course, but it makes me wonder where it all stems from. Now, I am NOT looking for validation.  I look in the mirror and have never seen pretty and always see fat.  I have been told coountless times that although I could use some weight loss and tone, I don't have a major problem.  I believe them, but can't see it.Does anyone know why some of us are this way?i suppose it would be easy to blame the media.

veronabrit

amen teremity. I too thought it was ironic that the women on more to love referred to thinner women as "skinny bitches_"...yet if I called them "fat bitches_" which, I wouldn't but for argument's sake, they would go nuts.

mocha beans

Shows like this that make people think that unless you're a size 4 with perfect measurements, there's something to "fix" or make better.  That's where it comes from.And little girls watching such shows at an early and impressionable age, without mom telling her it's unrealistic sometimes.

agk0125

Ok, update on the girl right now: "I'm hungry all the time. I'm always thinking about food."UNHEALTHY! She lost 11 pounds in three weeks. I think she's at 170 something now..

agk0125

Oh I lied..she lost 17 lbs over the course and ended at 191.

veronabrit

anna- you make a good point. There is definitely a tremendous pressure for women to look a certain way.  For some women, that pressure can be too much to bear, for others, it is a motivator.  I know I will never look like Marissa Miller or Alessandra Ambrosio, but it is nice to have them as inspiration ( I would kill for Marissa's body).Body Dismorphic Disorder is also pretty prevalent these days.  I know the media is somewhat to blame- but think about it, in the last 10 years, the trend has shifted from using supermodels and models on the covers of magazines.  I don't remember the last time I saw a model that was NOT a household name (like Heidi Klum or Cindy Crafword) on a magazine cover. The theory is that women can relate more to celebrities because they are "real poeple" whereas the beauty of a perfectly symmetrical face like some models have, is unattainable by most.In a sense, I can see how this is true- we can relate more to celebrities.  Have you ever seen the celebrities without makeup pictures?  Many of them are nice looking people who become freaking gorgeous with the right hair, makeup and clothes.

SpringBride1114

If anyone is still watching.... "I don't think the marrage would last that long" when they showed her overtime weight gain... A little sad I would say...

agk0125

"I don't think the marrage would last that long" when they showed her overtime weight gain... A little sad I would say...I don't know what's sadder, that I'm still watching or that she said that. Terrible!

carrieoz_76

The girls on More to Love call skinny girls skinny biitches b/c they probably *have* been called fat biitches. Doesn't make it right, but it's a way to try to pull themselves to even with the skinny biitches.As for this show - how about they just take any ol' bride with body issues, no matter the size, and work on getting her to like herself, in the dress and out. Oh, that would be boring. More fun to watch stupid brides who bought a too-small dress and think they're fat try to lose too much weight too fast. B/c that's what we all do.Me, I want to like my body in my dress. But more important, I want to like my body. Period.

mocha beans

More fun to watch stupid brides who bought a too-small dress and think they're fat try to lose too much weight too fast. B/c that's what we all do.That's exactly why show like this and More to Love and Dance Your Assss Off are popular  And then girls watch it and think they too need to lose a bunch of weight to be loved or pretty or accepted.It's ridiculous, but also human nature.  Nature selects for the best of the species, and subconciously we all know that the "best", from an evolutionary standpoint, are the fittest and prettiest.  That's how we all want to be, from an evolutionary standpoint.Hmm, I must have had too much to drink, now I'm all philosophical.

SpringBride1114

Ok so this is NOT related to the show... How the heck do I get a picture into my signature?

annakatebride

Okay, I admit this show is crappy tv, but I've seen it a few times and the girls a lot of the times don't work out at all, don't watch what they eat, and are sad that they don't fit in their dresses. So they show them what to eat, give them a personal trainer/exercise program, and alter their dresses accordingly. No, not all of them start out as "fat" or "needing to drop some weight" but they don't fit in their dresses and they always seem to have some really bad habits that can be helped. None of the weight loss ever has seemed out of control to me (like Biggest Loser weight loss). Sorry if it seems like I don't have a lot of sympathy, but I think that a lot of people would lose weight if they changed their eating habits and started exercising rigorously, and I think everyone should strive to eat well and work out. 

ndzenowski

Are we sure that they actually lost 15 or 11 lbs? No one seems to take into account water weight.

atlb

I'm brand new, so I know I will totally get flamed for this, but I don't really care.Nugget, you sure do act like you know a whole lot about this subject, but when you keep repeating "2 pounds or 10%" you do realize you sound like a moron, right? 1.4 is NOT 10% of 140. You might want to re-check your math--and your sources for weight loss info.I have no tolerance for obese people. A size 8 is not obese, mind you, but it is also not thin. Lost 15 pounds in 6 weeks is completely healthy, so long as it is done correctly.

NuggetBrain

You're right, I mistyped. It should be 1%. God, I'm SUCH a moron for accidentally adding a zero. Thank you so much for pointing that out for me. I'm assuming that you're a nutrionist, or doctor, or weight loss specialist since apparently my info is all wrong from a typo? Just asking.

SpringBride1114

LOL nugget

atlb

A typo that you made more than once. :-) No need to get so defensive dear.And yes, in fact, I am a nutritionist.

NuggetBrain

I wasn't defensive, if I was there would be a lot more cussing. I was sarcastic. So what's you opinion on what healthy weight loss should be? Seriously.

atlb

Any amount of weight loss is healthy when done the right way. Everyone's body reacts differently to dietary and exercise changes. So long as you eat appropriately and exercise moderately (both weight training and cardio) it doesn't matter. I have had clients that lost 1 lb a week, and clients that lost 7-10 lbs a week on the same plan. So, it depends. There is no "perfect" amount, nor is there a point that it is "too much". What matters is how you go about it.

NuggetBrain

How do you think the amount they lose coordinates with the amount they keep off? Do you see a lot of people who lose quickly come back having put the weight back on, or people that lose slowly come back having put the weight back on? Averages of course. Do you think 6 weeks is enough time to totally change a person's eating habits? Do you have an average amount of time you usually see your clients?