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TKOlsen

We just got an RSVP back from my cousin.  He and his 2 year old daughter were invited (his wife left them about 6 months after the kid was born).  His response was that they'd both be attending along with "Mindy +1 daughter."  I have no idea who Mindy is and no name for the daughter.  My fiance and I decided before invites went out that unless +Guest was engaged to the person we were inviting or we had met them they were not going to be invited.  Our venue will accomodate the extra guests, we just didn't want people we might not ever see again at our wedding.  I have other cousins who are currently dating people who were not invited.  (And my fiance wasn't invited to his and his exwife's wedding)It's really not a big deal other than I dont want to hear from my aunts that this girl no one even knows about is invited, but their son's current girlfriends aren't invited.  Do we tell him we chose not to invited girlfriends/boyfriends, only engaged or spouse?

temerityjane

Just call and say you noticed he RSVP'd for extra people who weren't indicated on the invite, and that you're sorry but you won't be able to accommodate them. You don't really owe anyone any reason.

mocha beans

How long have cousin and Mindy been together?  If it's a while (like 6 months+), then you really should invite them.  Long time bf/gf's should also get invites.If it's a flavor of the week type thing, they you can probably call and say the invite was only for cousin and daughter, though he might get upset anyway.

torontobride17

I would let him bring them.

mwhitson14

So, by other cousins who are currently dating people, you mean flavor of the week dating, right? Because cousins in significant relationships, regardless of whether you don't want people you might never see again at your wedding, should get to bring their significant other.

TKOlsen

I have no idea how long they've been dating.  We only met his ex wife the christmas gathering (our family is big on family and meets for all the holidays) prior to their January wedding so they're not too big on the getting to know the family type of thing.  Our single guests who we knew wouldn't know any one were allowed to bring a guests because we didn't want anyone to be uncomfortable.  His parents and brother and sister inlaw are also attending and he know's our entire family, so it's not like he wouldn't know anyone there...

TKOlsen

If my other cousin's current girlfriends were important enough to be a significant other, we would have met them at one of our numerous family gatherings.  (Or I would think I would have atleast heard a NAME - and would have then inquired into how significant that person is)

NuggetBrain

Yeah, but this isn't just him inviting his girlfriend, he's bringing his girlfriend's daughter along too. When do you drawn the line on guests? I'm sorry but +1 guest means +1, not 2 or 3 or 15.

TKOlsen

Since this first added guest RSVP, there have been several more, for a total of 11 extra guests who weren't invited... (I'm not counting my great aunt who is comming up from california and is bringing her adult daughter because her husband couldn't make it - that's an even swap) I considered for a while writing a nice general letter to send out rather than calling all these people, but have instead decided I'm not going to worry about it. 8 extra people isn't a big deal and I dont have time to do anything about it.