Adding a bridesmaid

thesportsgal21

So originally FI and I agreed on 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen. We've been engaged for 4 months and had our wedding party set for the last 2 1/2. But then he realized that he forgot about his cousin after he had told the others, and of course I said go ahead and ask him bc he's family and they're close, blah blah blah. Of course I'm not that bride who's obsessed with symmetry and can't have an uneven wedding party... BUT I have a 7th girl I want to ask and I would have asked her from the beginning if we were going to do 7, and I'm thinking about asking her to join. Problem is, I need a way to do so that doesn't scream "the wedding party was uneven, i needed one more" because thats so rude haha. do you have any suggestions?

berryholly

I'm confused - if you weren't concerned about symmetry to begin with, and you had seven girls you wanted to ask...then why didn't you ask seven girls?  You and your FI "agreeing on 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen" = being concerned about symmetry.  I don't think there is any way to ask her now without it being extremely obvious that she is filler. 

xnikki118x

I think it depends on the girl. We initially had 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen, but one of my girls had to drop when we moved our date up. I still wanted to keep 5 so I asked another good friend, who was thrilled to be part of it. I knew this friend in particular wasn't offended about not having been asked in the beginning, and thought she'd be happy to be part and she was.If you feel like she'll be excited about standing up for you, go ahead and ask her. It's still early yet!

fireflyz56

We originally had 3 girls and 2 guys in our wedding party. I really wanted FI to ask my brother, but he was nervous/shy about it for some reason. So my brother didn't get asked until about 4 months later.It went fine, and he was thrilled to be asked!

noelle24

I don't think there's any way to do this without it being obvious that she's an add-on who didn't make the cut the first time. I also don't buy it that you aren't concerned about symmetry.  If you wanted 7 in the first place, why didn't you just ask 7?

macdidlyicious

just ask her. say "i've thought about it and i really want you standing up there with me when i marry FI. will you be a bridesmaid?". Done. You dont need to go into having even sides, which as pp said totally contradicts your last sentence in the first paragraph. Its okay if you want the sides to be even. No one will hurt you.

[Deleted User]

Uneven sides are fine. You need to think about how she will feel about being asked so late in the game. How would that make you feel?

duckie1905

If you ask her it'll be previous obvious to her that she was not one of the original choices.  This may not bother her (it would bother me) but you are the one that needs to make that decision based on your relationship with her.Having even sides is not necessary or required. Your FI can invite his cousin and have 7 while you have 6.