Listing deceased groomsman?

jilybeans4

One of our groomsmen passed away 2 weeks ago. I am trying to make our program - both FI and I agree that we want to still list him as a groomsman. I had him listed as "honorary groomsman" and FI didn't like that wording.If you were a guest and there were 4 groomsmen listed, but only 3 standing, would you be confused? I feel like we should have some sort of designation that he isn't here.... but I can't think of anything aside from "honorary". I don't think FI is opposed to some sort of designation, but doesnt like honorary.I guess this isn't a big deal, but I would like a program that our guests will be able to follow, as well as one that correctly honors the people we are meaning to honor.Thank you!

NcsuPsych

you could put something like "name. . . 'He will always be in our hearts' " or something??  I like honorary too, but I can see your FI's point. Im sorry to hear about your friend, best wishes!

KelsieElaine

That's terrible. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Ditto pp. List him as a groomsman with a note next to his name. Semi-related sidenote: I had a horrible dream a couple weeks ago that my sister (MOH) had died before my wedding and I was carrying her favorite childhood stuffed animal with me down the aisle and with me as I said my vows. It was terrible. Perhaps you could have something that represents your lost groomsman with you and FI at the altar.

Hunny03

"name- who has the best seat in the house watching over us on our wedding day" or "in loving memory"

scoetto

Yeah, I'm not a fan of honorary either. Hunny said it best - "In loving memory". And maybe leave a space between two of the groomsmen so it's obvious somebody's missing.

[Deleted User]

So sorry for your loss! I like Scoetto's idea of leaving space for him.

jilybeans4

Thanks everyone. I appreciate your suggestions and condolences.

jennylee753

I'm so sorry to hear this.  The other posters suggestions are what I was thinking too.  Or you could put like 1/1/79-8/8/09 next to his name (with real dates of course) and RIP.  Or something like that?