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Corsages for BM?

I've been up in the air about flowers for a while. I really don't want them, but FI does. And they're important to my parents *eyeroll* so they're willing to pay for a certain amount. I'm only getting them for the ceremony. I don't even want any for me because I think it's pointless to juggle them while being escorted by FI down the aisle for 90 seconds then handing them off. I posted a bit ago about thinking the markup on bouquets was ridiculous. The florist gave us very reasonable prices for bouts and corsages. Would it be weird to get corsages for the BM? They told me they don't really care about flowers one way or another. They'll be escorted by the GM, so they won't be walking all awkwardly and bouquet-less. Weird?
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  • I think that sounds like a perfect compromise, especially if the prices are reasonable.  Not weird at all.  (If it were me, I would go with wrist corsages, but your call.)
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  • Please don;t make your friends wear corsages.  There are lots of neat ideas out there for non-floral things they could do.  But no one wants to wear a corsage.  I promise.  I think it would look completely stupid too.   

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  • East: What I got from the post is that her parents specifically want flowers, so the non-floral options wouldn't really work for her.  I may have read it wrong though.
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  • simple flower bouquets are nice and very cost friendly.  Two or three flowers wont break the bank.
  • I think that just carrying a single flower would look better than a corsage. 
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  • There are so many cheaper options than using a florist.  You could make them yourself with real or fake flowers.  I'd look into that first before going the corsage route.
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  • Could you just do a single stem of a flower?  The prices for that wouldn't be ridiculous.
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  • Not a fan of corsages I would rather carry a single stem of some sort (rose, hydrangea)
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  • Well, considering I really don't want flowers, I'm not going to slave over DIY. Especially when I have so much DIY already.In my previous post, I mentioned how three gerberas was in the vicinity of $40 at the least expensive florist. Personally, for someone who doesn't like flowers, I find that ridiculous and excessive. If corsages are really that despicable, why do parents always want them? I'm genuinely asking and not being b!tchy. Why do they get offended if they don't have one? Maybe I can get away with just bouts for GM & dads, and corsages for the moms.
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  • Oh, and I think single stems are pretty lame looking. Sorry.
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  • Wait, do your parents want flowers for themselves, or the wedding party?  Because if they just want them for themselves, I'd just get parent flowers and you and your girls can go empty-handed.And I don't know why parents want them.  As I mentioned earlier, my mom got pouty when I suggested that I wasn't going to make corsages.
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  • They want them for everyone. I don't really know why. FI only cares about having them for his guys. I would be ok with them not having anything. I think they (or anything people carry down the aisle) is pointless.Another question for those who hate corsages: do you hate bouts too? I mean, isn't a corsage just a bigger bout? Are they just more socially acceptable on men?
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  • I think they...is pointless? Grammar fail, sorry.I think flowers are pointless.
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  • My mom informed me that corsages are SO not in-style for MOBs these days--she wants a small hand bouquet instead.  So, maybe it's a fashion-type thing?  FMIL, of course, thinks hand bouquets are stupid and specifically wants a corsage.I would not want a corsage mostly because they are uncomfortable.  The elastic on wrist corsages really bothers my skin, and pin-on ones either ruin my clothes or get smushed.  At least I can keep my BM bouquet in a vase for a week until it wilts.If you just want three gerbera daisies, I don't see that there's a lot of DIY involved, other than go to the store and buy them, and hand each girl three and you're done.
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  • If they're insisting on it, and they're paying for it up to a certain amount, I would just get whatever you can get for that amount and no more.  If they say it's not enough, tell them they can fork over more money or deal with it, because it's not important to you and you're not spending your own money on it.
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  • Another question for those who hate corsages: do you hate bouts too? I mean, isn't a corsage just a bigger bout? Are they just more socially acceptable on men? I don't really love bouts, especially when a guy is wearing some ridiculously huge pink rose or something un-manly.  I asked FI what he wanted and he said "ranunculus bouts" so...that's what he'll get.Plus, on men, they're less likely to ruin your clothes.  A pin stick in a suit won't damage it, but if you stick a pin in a silk or satin BM dress it's going to snag or run.
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  • Bouts are fine for guys, personally, I think corsages (pin or wrist) are for mom's, grandma's, old ladies and high school dances I don't like pin on because they ruin your dress and also pull it down and make me worry about exposure I don't like wrist because the elastic and the flowers are normally itchy and uncomfortable, and they tend to spin around on my wrist A single stem of hydrangea is pretty and larger and could work Or instead of gerbera try mums, super cheap alternative, you can get a bunch of 6-9 at the grocery store for $5 usually
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  • Brie - my mom is getting a small hand bouquet as well! Love that idea!
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  • I asked the moms about flower options, and mentioned the hand bouquet.  Both requested wrist corsages.  Haven't talked to the stepmoms yet, we'll see if they're up with the trends, I guess.Bel: could you do bouts for the guys and no flowers for your girls?  Or are your parents insisting on some sort of bridesmaid flowers?
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  • [IMG]http://i30.tinypic.com/w9wtb6.jpg[/IMG]Have you considered small nosegay bouquets for your BMs? They are essentially like corsages, but are meant to be held. Ours cost $25 each and the moms LOVED them! They actually requested these over corsages. To me corsage = prom. I think grandparents and parents can get away with them because they are....grandparents and parents. I think they look odd on younger people who aren't at prom, but that's JMO.
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  • I hate corsages AND bouts so we didn't have either. I think they are pointless and silly-looking. Dudes shouldn't wear flowers, IMO, and corsages are annoying to wear. I'd skip them. Just get whatever bouquets you can with the amount your parents are willing to pay, or skip flowers altogether.
  • Bel: could you do bouts for the guys and no flowers for your girls? Or are your parents insisting on some sort of bridesmaid flowers?That was my posted solution after everyone said how much they hate corsages. I'm going to try to convince them this is a good idea.
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  • Aw, Brie. DH wore a pink rose and he still felt manly. It was my brother who gave me crap for the pink rose (and pink tie!) Hahaha.
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  • Aw, Brie. DH wore a pink rose and he still felt manly. It was my brother who gave me crap for the pink rose (and pink tie!) Hahaha. Aww, sorry, that wasn't directed at you.  He looks very manly!  I just can't bring myself to ask our GMs to wear pink.I thought for sure FI was going to shoot down the idea of bouts altogether, but he was very certain he wants white ranunculus with a wire-wrapped stem.  Oooookay then.  I think he just likes saying "ranunculus."
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  • Brie - DH says "There's nothing un-manly about pink" but then again, his favorite color is purple. I know that others (like my brother!) would think otherwise about pink! Ha.
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  • Btw Brie, I'm surprised your FI knows what ranunculus are! DH would have no clue. He just knows the basics - roses and daisies.
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  • Haha, you're right--I did just realize FI bought a pink dress shirt to wear to work this week.Comment redacted. 
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  • He heard the word ranunculus on some wedding show and googled it.  He googles things a lot and then decides he likes them.  This is one.
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  • That's impressive!
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  • My husband had a wire-wrapped ranunculus bout, too!  I thought it was very nice--the head of the flower was small and it looked very sleek.  I hate huge bouts on a man!
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