I have been a lurker(sorry) on here for a while. But now I need some advice....I was married at 17 divorced at 20...too young and stupid!!!Here's the dilemma. I have been married and divorced. I was engaged about a year ago and am planning a DW and AHR when we return. My FI has never been married. Our friends/parents want to throw a shower. I am trying to keep everyone happy by following the "etiquette" for the up coming events. However, what do I do here? The people closest to us feel it's important to do this(I never did anything the first time) I also don't want to offend anyone because it is my second marriage? Plus I don't want to hurt my MOH, mom, and fmil because doing this is just as important to them, So what do I do in this situation? Thanks for any help...