Invitation question

wildangel2189

How do you address the issue of proper attire for your guests?  Our wedding will not be super formal but I don't want people showing up in shorts and flipflops either. There are a few that I am afraid might do just that!Is is considered in poor taste to put "semi-casual dress requested" on the invitation?

vallyhoo

Unless your venue has a dress code, you have to trust that your guests are able to dress appropriately for the occasion.

ffmaid

YES it is tacky . guests shoudl know how to dress themselves and a note will not change the attire of teh tacky people just make you seem rude to the ones you did not need to say anything too  

Golfer'sLady

Ditto valleyhoo.Unless your venue requires a certain attire (i.g. coats for men or a woman's shoulders need to be covered) then attire should not be noted. The style of your invitation and venue selection should properly indicate the attire.

SwedishChick2011

I wouldn't put anything on the invitations.  Most people will know how to dress, and the few people that don't...who cares?  Are you really going to notice or care on your wedding day? 

georgia_bride09

People that would show up to a wedding in flip-flops and shorts would do so regardless of what is on the invite. Talking about attire on your invite is tacky. You just have to assume your guests have a little common decency and know that a wedding is not the place for flip flops and shorts.

betrothed123

Trust me, it won't matter at all.  Our venue had a dress code, but I figured since it wasn't very formal, there was no need to put it on the invites.  Our invites made it quite clear that our wedding was a semi-formal event.One of our guests showed up in a Buffalo Bills sweat suit.  Our venue still let him in (if they hadn't I would have thrown a royal fit.  He was a guest and I paid too much to have a guest turned away).  The only reason it affected our day at all is because my H and I still look back and laugh.Leave it off the invite.  Trust people to dress accordingly, and if they don't, don't let it get to you.

aerinpegadrak

I'm not sure I would know what "semi-casual dress" would mean.  To me, that would actually imply that, say, jeans and a nice blouse are totally okay.  I think you're looking for "semi-formal."If you're really, REALLY concerned about a few specific people who won't know how to dress, I would find an intermediary to address the issue with them.  Perhaps a friend could casually bring up what they're wearing to the wedding, and ask the person in question what they intend to wear.  If the "89" part of your handle is your birth year, then it's likely a lot of your friends haven't been to weddings before, and may not be entirely sure of how to dress.That said, one of the FAQs on my guest website briefly states the dress code.  I think there's a lot of information that shouldn't go on invitations that's hunky dory for websites.

betrothed123

The point isn't that everyone will dress appropriately.  They may not.  The point is that even if someone isn't dressed to your standards you just have to let it go.  It's not a refelction on you.  It's a reflection on them.