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Did I overreact?

I just got off the phone with someone at my insurance agency.  She was asking me a couple questions they forgot to ask when I first insured my e-ring.  When she asked the color, and I told her, she kind of muttered something like, "Ok, only G...hmmm, interesting." So I said "Excuse me?" because I didn't really hear her, and she stammered and spit out "oh well um...well not everyone can afford a completely colorless diamond...and um, well..." I was pretty pissed and responded "Well, that was rather rude to say, don't you think?"  She then hurriedly asked me the last question and hung up. I'm pretty pissed that she felt the need to comment on the color of my ring, but I realize what I said wasn't the best thing either.  Did I overreact in getting pissed off?

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Re: Did I overreact?

  • I give that a big wtf. But mostly because I have no idea if G is good or bad....
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  • I dont think you overreacted at all how dare her say that to you? I would call back and speak to the manager but thats just the kind of person I am.
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  • No, you didn't.  That's crap and she has no business saying that to you.  What a skank. 
  • Nope, you didn't overreact. What a shiitty thing for her to say.
  • Maybe she just said it in terms of the insurance amount or value of the ring and you took it personally.  Who knows but I wouldn't worry about it.  it's not like she's your BFF or anything, she was just some chick on the phone doing her job.
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  • Nope.  I bet she doesn't even have a pretty ring and it was her jealousy seeping through.
  • No, not at all.  I would have been upset too.
  • I don't think enough people get called out on blatant rudeness.  I think there are so many douchebags around these days simply because they can get away with being douchebags and no one says anything.  Good for you.
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  • No, I don't think you over-reacted. She had no business commenting on your diamond at all.
  • That's pretty crappy that she's judging you and your fiancee based on the color of your diamond.  I probably would have caused a bigger scene and asked to speak to her boss.  She can talk about me all she wants when we're not on the phone together but saying it to you was completely unprofessional.
  • Mine's an H - and compared to the D, E, or F - there is virutally no difference. No difference enough to add another 1K to the price!
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  • I'm not the kind of person that comes on here and brags about my ring or budget of my wedding (because neither is huge!), but G is first shade in "near colorless."  So it's not like it's yellow.  It looks pretty freakin' colorless to me. 

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  • Yea I agree with Anna, I bet she was jealous.
  • I would call back and demand to speak with a manager. That was rude and uncalled for.
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  • That was a pretty dumb comment on her part, and I don't think you overreacted by snapping back. But who cares what she thinks... if you waste anymore energy being pissed, THEN I'd say you're overreacting. At least you sufficiently embarrassed her.
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  • I don't think you overreacted at all. That was very unprofessional of her.
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  • Exactly P2, exactly.  Like I said, I can't even tell.  I love my ring.

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  • G is actually pretty good.  It's nearly colorless.  She has pretty rude to say that.  I would have let it go, but she should have known better than to say something so unprofessional. 
  • no, i dont think what you said was rude.  and anyway, i think a G is pretty good anyway.  she is ridic!
  • Yeah, Dani, it wasn't the "only G" comment that got me, it was her attempt to backpeddle and suggest we couldn't afford something "better." 

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  • Ew she sucks. I would have been pissed off too. VERY unprofessional of her!
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  • I give you props for calling her out.  What an unprofessional biatch.
  • At least you sufficiently embarrassed her. this is true at least and should make you feel a little better
  • There are very few things that matter as dearly to me as my engagement ring. It's a little different than the norm, but not too out there (17 small diamonds, no real "center stone"). I dread the day someone makes a snotty comment about it. Say something negative about my hair, my clothes, my purse of choice, the way I decorate my home, whatever - who cares? My ring is my one possession that I would definitely get a little shrill about, pretty much like you did, "who the eff do you think you are, really?"
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  • Pretty rude of her, yes, especially with the backpeddling comment about not everyone affording a completely colorless diamond.I would have said, "If we didn't have to pay insurances on things, we would have been able to afford a colorless diamond."  Or something similarly snarky.
  • Oh, I'm good now.  The irritation has passed.  It was more of a 'WTF, someone left their filter at home today' moment. 

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  • Let's find out where she lives and write "slut" in her yard with round up. Just kidding, that does suck. What a cvnt.
  • You didn't over react and she is an idiot. 
  • Let's find out where she lives and write "slut" in her yard with round up.This made lol.  (Disclaimer, I'd never actually DO this, but it was funny to read!)

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  • I don't think that was a 'leaving her filter at home' moment... more like a very stupid comment. #1 She works for the insurance agency so I have an inkling that they insure jewelry at all ends of the spectrum. Does she judge everything that is not a D, E or F?#2 What she said about 'not everyone being able to afford a completely colorless diamond' is pretty foffing ridiculous and stupid. Like, no sh!t not everyone can afford a completely colorless diamond... and a lot of people cannot afford a G, either. What a ho bag.
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