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Invitation wording Problem!

I've tried searching around the boards for a simliar post and couldn't really find what I was looking for. It's getting close to the time that I need to send out my invitations, so I've got to figure this out. I know that typically, the names listed on the invitations are who contributed financially. My parents are divorced and my dad will be getting remarried next week, 3 months before my wedding. My mom has contributed the most so we will be listing her first on the inviations and on the next line listing my dad. His fiance sent me a check for $600 (her own money) last week. Should I include her on the invitation? Also, my fiance's parents are not contributing financially to the wedding other than paying for the rehearsal dinner. His mom did tell me that she will pay for any of her friends (work friends that we do not know) that she wants to invite that weren't listed on the guest list as family friends. This will only be about 7 or 8 people. Should his parents be included on the invitation as well since they will contribute a couple hundred bucks? Thanks in advance!!!

Re: Invitation wording Problem!

  • contributed financially Wrong. It's those who are hosting, not necessarily those who are footing the bill.
  • You are putting wayyyy too much thought into this. And no, name on invites don't always indicate who has contributed financially. Why not put "Together with their families." That's what we did - no one is offended because it covers everyone.
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  • Oh, I change my mind. Do what museums do, list it as: Contributors that donated more than $1,000 - Mom Donated $500-1,000 - Dad, Future step-mom Cheapskates - Future in-laws. Put this right on the invite.
  • The invitation is not about who contributed financially, or in the order of the amount of money they paid. There are lots of examples out there for ways you can word it. If you put your parents names but exclude his parents, they may very well take that as a slap in the face. Ms. Mom and Stepdad together with Mr. Dad and Stepmom Invite you blah blah Bride and Groom Son of his parents.
  • I also suggest using: together with their families,periwinkleandperiwinkle's FIrequest the honor of your presence...No one, not us or any of your guests, need to know the details of who pays for your wedding.
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  • Ok, so I worded it a little wrong. Sorry! I wasn't really sure what the difference between "hosting" and contributing. I like "together with their families". Thanks for the suggestion!
  • Yeah both of our parents are divorced and remarried and they're all contributing - a little to a lot, so we just put "together with their parents." We ran it by the parentals first and they all said the same thing: that they didn't care as long as we weren't listing one set of parents but not another.
  • Well what is the difference?
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