My month board is on drugs!

Travis&Cari

Someone on my club board started a thread about going on medication for wedding planning and the wedding day, and a lot of people said they have.  Do other people really do this or is my board as wacky as I feared?

ricksang

I love my club/anni. board.

anmllwyr

Travis&Cari, I hope you're not afraid of me either!  I promise I'm not insane or dangerous in any way. 

Travis&Cari

there's definitely no drama over there, which is nice, but sometimes I just give my computer the side-eye when I read some things that people write.  Everyone is really nice too, so I'm not trying to be mean, but sometimes I wonder.Mostly the point of this was to see if other people feel the need to do this too.

Travis&Cari

anmllwyr - I'm not scared of you either. :)For real, most people are pretty sane over there, but I'm sure anyone who has been over there would agree that there are a few that are out there.  Guess I just have to get used to puppies & rainbows over there and then come to P&E for my painful reality check.

anmllwyr

LOL.  That's what I do.  I lurk on P&E all the time because it's more up my alley.  I post on Oct 09 for planning advice because we're all at the same stage.  But P&E is much more fun and entertaining!  PS -- I don't think you're scary either. 

VAtoCO

The Oct 09 board has always been hard for to me to take.  A lot of the posts are either puppies and rainbows or bridezilla-ish.  My local is much better (T&C, I'm pretty sure you've been over there, too).  I get needing/wanting meds if you have existing issues (ie, depressing, anxiety, etc).  But, if not, and you need drugs to make it through the planning process, you're doing something wrong.

munkii

I won't out her except to say her name starts with "je".  I'm trying to be nice...why?  Only god knows.

ilovemyco

No meds for this october bride. Just alittle nail biting. LOL I hope I don't scare you. I haven't checked it out but I have a feeling I know who would have posted that.

iamjoesgurl

I've been posting over there a little bit lately now that the wedding is next month and I haven't noticed that people seem crazy.  I think they are saying that with the wedding drawing closer, they are stressing out.  Not condoning that at all since I don't even really like to take Advil when I have a headache, but it's not like they are talking about taking Xanax with the wedding still a year out.  Just sayin

ilovemyco

Ok I just checked. Not the person who I was thinking of. I was wrong. LOL

ac_in_dc

Stressful events can definitely bring out depression and anxiety in people. But, um, that sh!t is chronic, and if you're getting that stressed out by a wedding, good luck getting through a marriage.

Travis&Cari

Munkii you are nice, you don't have to name names, I got it.

Travis&Cari

I have struggled with depression and anxiety in the past, so I am not judging anyone.  But to start taking antidepressants a month out from the wedding seems extreme to me.  I know that they aren't magical pills that flip a switch in your brain and make you feel better over night.  They need to build up before they take effect and they sometimes need to be adjusted before things are just right.  It seems like people are looking for a quick fix.As people have said there are clearly some underlying issues that should be addressed instead of trying to blame things on wedding stress.  One poster said she was experimenting now with a relaxant for the wedding day.  I couldn't believe that a doctor would even prescribe that stuff.  I'm just picturing all these sedated brides going through the motions of their wedding day and not appreciating or remembering it.

missy68

ac, my issue isn't getting through the wedding, and yes, it is chronic. my issue is my dog that I've had for 14 years is dying, I'm spending $1100 I don't have on dental work because I'm terrified of the dentist (imagine flying if you're terrified to fly but you have to get to australia/germany/etc ASAP), it took 7 months to refinance our house, and these little things just keep building. I'm doing all I can to keep it under control. FI knows all of these issues. I'm on medication. Sometimes, it is all just a little more than I can handle. The wedding? Please. I made a call, picked out a a package, picked out a cake, picked out a dress, and was done.  Very little about the wedding has stressed me out. It is other things that are occurring at the same time that are getting to me. I'm facing having to euthanize my dog between now and my wedding. Not a happy time.

ilovemyco

What ever happened to good old fashion booze to make your problems go away? J/K lol

ac_in_dc

Missy, I'm sorry to hear about your problems. I didn't mean to sound flippant about depression and anxiety issues, I've struggled with them myself, and I totally get how stressful a wedding can be. There's something about the tone of some of those posts on the Oct 09 board that freaks me out, I can't articulate very well though...

TheFutureMrsM-LoungingBeachside

over-zealous early planning I'm glad to hear that happens on other boards....its whats scared me away from the July '10 board because everyone is freaking out because they don't have X,Y, or Z planned yet and I'm thinking "that wasn't even on my mental list yet!"

Travis&Cari

missy, I'm sorry you are dealing with all of that.  It's a lot. I don't blame you for feeling the way you feel and you have every right to be stressed.I agree though that some other brides in that post seemed to be overreacting to wedding planning.  Like ac said, hard to put it into words...

jinxed8605

OOOMMMGGGG! I have less than 9 months! I NEED to get cracking!!!!!!!!!Just kidding ^_^

missy68

Thanks, guys.  I'm frustrated, too b/c I'd made it for 2 years w/o medication (other than for ADD), and thought I'd gotten a handle on it all.You know the saying, if it isn't one thing, it's another....There ARE people out there who will go apeshiit over insane things (and they're the ones who end up on TV) -agreed. They are the ones, usually who either have unresolved issues, or who just need to take a freakin' chill pill

blenderdance

My mom was popping valium the week before my wedding.  It was kind of funny actually--I felt like I had stepped back into the 60s, with "Mommy's little helper"...