Invitation wording - how to include parents

kristi0412

Hello! I was hoping to get a few opinions/advice on how to properly word our wedding invitations. We are paying for most of our wedding ourselves, we are not asking for any money; however, my mom has given us a little so far and has mentioned she will help out some more! (she's the best!) Anyways, my FI only has his mom (never knew his dad), and she is a bit... hmmm... well.. let's just say I sent her a text of my ring the night we got engaged and never heard from her... send her the save the date email and never heard from her... Anyways, my parents are divorced, my mom is remarried but her husband passed away this June. I think I would like my parents names on the invite, but if I do that I can't leave out his mom.. and then if I do that, how do I put my mom's name on there? Is it Mrs. Husband name or is it Mrs. Her name? It's more of a casual wedding so I don't feel I have to necessarily do what's "proper" I just don't know what to do! Thanks for any help! I appreciate it!

lauralaur

"Together with their parents, kristi and kristi's fi..." It's soooo much easier. And avoids all family politics. That's what we're using.

sarah0725

There are a few other options. If you want it to look like your parents are hosting, you could say:Mr. and Mrs. YourParents invite you to the wedding of their daughter, You, to Your FI, son of FI's mom however she wants to refer to herself.For both sets, you could say:Mr. and Mrs. YourParents and FI's mom invite you to the wedding of their children, You and FI.I'm not sure if that's the exact wording but you can get the exact wording from an Emily Post book.

sarah0725

I missed the detail about your mom remarrying. You know, the best thing might be to look at Emily Post. There are a lot of templates for wording.

carrieoz_76

We'll probably use Together with their Parents, but you can look up other options on the Crane's Blue Book here - [urlhttp://tinyurl.com/272bm4[/url] That link also has lots of other information about how to deal with other common invitation addressing issues.

carrieoz_76

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lauralaur

Ack, Carrie! I need to stop reading Crane's! I keep finding little areas where I screwed up on our invitations. I checked multiple sources before sending them to print (everywhere but Crane's it seems) and was so sure I had them right! Now I just keep telling myself no one will notice but me!

Night_Sprite

You could do Kristi daughter of blah and blahand Mr. Kristi son of blah and blah

Kristin789

Use both your mom's married names so guests will know who she is. Here's how the top of your invitation will read: Mrs. Harriet Jones Smith Mr. Raymond John Jones request the honour of your presence.... And about this part of your post: "If I do that, I can't leave out his mom." Well, it's not a matter of leaving anyone out. His mom is not a host of the wedding, so her name would not go at the top of the invitation as the hosts who are inviting the guests to attend. If you insist on puttintg his mother's name on there, you can use this construction: to Kyle Michael Orton son of Mrs. Sharon Orton