1 year deadline for thak you's

sashasmommy

I hear all the time that the deadline for thank you cards is one year. Does this apply to shower gifts, too? I wanted to use some of the wedding pictures to make the thank-you cards, like this: [url]http://sashasmommy.weebly.com/uploads/2/0/2/6/2026125/8924268.jpg[/url] Which means that I will have to wait until November-ish to get the photos, but FI's aunt is complaining that she hasn't received a thank you card for the shower in July. (Though the gift was mailed to our house, not given at the shower, so that could technically make it a "wedding gift".) Anyway, should I give up on my cool photo idea and just send out regular thank you notes so people won't be offended that I waited so long?

ktjanesmom

I think you should send shower thank yous before the wedding yes.   Use the idea for thank yous for wedding gifts.

Brie2010

Send the thank-yous ASAP.  I'm pretty sure the 1 year thing is that you have a year after the wedding to send a gift, not write a thank-you.I would rather have a prompt thank you note than a picture I'll throw away anyway.

Golfer'sLady

Way too long to wait.Emily Post says:Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period. All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift. Ideally, a response should be written on the day you receive a wedding gift. If that’s not possible, set a daily goal. It’s a lot easier to write three or four notes a day than to have to write a hundred notes in a month after the wedding!All those shower thank you notes be mailed within the next few weeks (which really, is far too long in my opinion).People appreciate being thanked, not a photo note card.

sucrets4

Get them out asap, especially if people are complaining.  Why would you want them hanging over your head for a year?  I actually dislike getting pics with thank yous because then I feel bad throwing them out.

lyndausvi

get them out ASAP.. Use wedding pictures as xmas or holiday cards.

Mrs.B6302007

Yep, write regular TYs immediately upon receiving any gifts - which means TODAY for any that have already been received and have yet to be acknowledged.  Save the pics for the holidays; they can be your first married couple greeting cards.

sashasmommy

Ah, well at least I'm still within the Emily Post 3 month period, LOL.  *heading off to write thank you notes*

lyndausvi

trust me it's so much easier to  just get them done, then having them hang over your head.

banana468

Start on them asap.  You're not within the appropriate period for shower gifts.  Those are late!

trix1223

I just got a ty for a wedding we attended last October 4.  Yep.  October 4.  We never did receive a ty for the shower that was in August.  Included in the " ty card" was a computer print out of a wedding picture (on regular paper, not photo paper) and the heartfelt sentiment:  "Thank you for the lovely gifts.  We were so glad you were able to share our special day with us."That took almost a year?  Please send the notes now.  I don't care at all about getting a photo that I'll toss away after a week of it lying on my kitchen counter.  I do care alot about getting a note in a timely fashion that also mentions the gift I gave.

swans alive

Definitely send the shower thank you notes now. My shower was August 22nd, and I procrastinated for a week after, but finally got them all out the next week. It feels so much better to just go on and do them. As for wedding presents, FI and I are going to try to write them as we get them. I know this'll get harder to do as the wedding gets closer, but I want to do as much as we can before the wedding. We're splitting our thank you notes up between us, too -- if it's any of his or his parents' people, he writes the TY note -- if it's mine or my parents' people, I write it.

monsoon737

The etiquette woman on this website (Ask Carley) said that you have 2 weeks to mail out a thank you card for a gift received before the wedding and 1 month for gifts received at or after the wedding. Guests have up to 1 year to send a present after the wedding is over (then you have up to 1 month). For bridal shower, I would say you need to stick to the 2 weeks before the wedding rule. Good luck!

banana468

For the bridal shower, you need to stick to two weeks after the shower.  The shower could be over a month before the wedding and that's WAY too long to send the note.

melishka716

I think it's acceptable and understandable if your shower ty's go out after the wedding IF it was 1-2 weeks before the wedding. Mine was and it was so stressful with everything else that I actually didn't have time to write them before the wedding.

JaimeeP

Don't delay the shower thank you's any longer. Surely, the aunt is not the only one wondering about whether you received a gift. You should be writing thank you notes for wedding gifts as you receive them. It's easier than doing all at once after. You do not have 1 year, it's more like 2 months at the most. You could mail the photos with your holiday cards.