Small work environment invite question.

KrisRose821

So, I work with maybe 6 or 7 other people max and I am close to all of them except 1. Would it be rude to invite everyone but the person that I dont associate with. I've hung out with all these people know their husbands and wives etc. If I invite everyone one else SHOULD I invite him? I think I know the answer to that one, but it goes against my wanting to invite him. I know that inviting people you work with is kind of a grey area because I've read on another posting you either invite everyone or keep it hush and invite only the people you want to invite. I feel terrible for not even wanting to invite him, but I'm being honest when I say I dont want to

Night_Sprite

It is 2 people and could be really awkward otherwise.  I would suck it up.

ac_in_dc

Why don't you want to invite him? Just curious.

tenofcups4me

With those numbers, you really should invite all of them. It would be a real slap in the face to that person to invite 6 co-workers and just exclude one of them.

Night_Sprite

Clarification: In my head I was talking about the co-worker and s/o.

shellydiane820

I wouldn't unless you are handing out invites in the office.Surely he knows you guys aren't close too. It might be awkward for him to come.

ffmaid

I think you can not invite over half a group without inviting all of the group unless you are ok with causing public snubbing  

KrisRose821

Well, it would be him and his wife and his rowdy rude kids who bullied some kids at the last company picnic. He treats me with disrespect on an almost constant basis.Mostly Im just afraid of their kids pushing my neices and nephews around.

ac_in_dc

Do you think it would be OK invite him without the kids, even if you invite others with kids?  

betrothed123

If it's just one person that will be left out, yes, I think you should invite him.  I work in a bigger office than you, but my H and I decided to only invite coworkers we were close with.  I invited the group of people that I work closely with on a daily basis.  There is one guy that none of us like.  Since I was inviting the other 6, I knew I had to invite him.  He knows he's not well liked, so he deicded not to come.  At least that burden wans't on my shoulders.  It was squarely on his.

betrothed123

Ditto Stage.  We only invited children who were close to us (which ended up being just those related to us).  You can do that, but don't exclude only one person.  That's just mean.

KrisRose821

Thanks for the input! I'll def invite just him and his wife. The only other kids being invited are either kids in my fam or kids of our wedding party. I appreciate the input!

Krissimarie

I'm probably going to get flamed for this, but I work in an office of 5 and didnt invite one person. I didnt invite him due to the fact that he makes my life hell at work, causing problems left and right. He made a comment to another employee that he was hurt I didnt hire him to video my wedding, but we have a family friend who owns a production studio and wants to do it as our wedding gift. I say if you have a bad work relationship with him, then dont invited them.

venus554

"He treats me with disrespect on an almost constant basis." This tells me, personally, that you shouldn't invite him.

steffenfam

Just for that comment alone, I say do NOT invite him.  Jerks like that don't even merit a sympathy invite.

lalap69

I agree with recent PP.  Don't invite someone who is disrespectful to you.  It's better to snub someone than to have someone who is rude to you at your wedding.  Not getting invited to social events is a consequence of disrespectful behaviour.  You don't need to shelter him.