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Weird wording issue, need opinions

This is convoluted, but I'll try to keep it as understandable as possible... Both MOB and MOG need to be issuing the invitation. Both the MOB and MOG are divorced from the FOB/G and both are remarried. So which "feels" better (and I already know this isn't completely optimal or correct, but I'm trying to make the best of a weird situation): Mr. & Mrs. Husbandofthe Motherofthebride and Mr. & Mrs. Husbandofthe Motherofthegroom request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children... or Mrs. Husbandofthe Motherofthebride and Mrs. Husbandofthe Motherofthegroom .... or Jane Motherofthebride and June Motherofthegroom request .... For clarification.... I know it would be easier to do "Together with their parents", but it's not an option. Crane's Blue Book says only natural/bio parents should be listed, but it looks.... I dunno... weird to me. Conversely, it also feels weird to list the mother's with their husband's names because I have a personal dislike for that. *But*... listing the mother's with either Ms. or without an honorific seems wrong, too. So... thoughts? Go.
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Re: Weird wording issue, need opinions

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    So your dad and your FI's dad don't get their names on the invitation at all?If you do option one or two, don't use the word "and" to separate them, just put them on separate lines.  I don't think your third option is good at all.  Option 1 is your best bet, although I can only assume your dad and your FI's dad and their families will not appreciate them being left off.
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    I guess I woiuld do: Ms/Mrs Jane MOBandMs/Mrs June MotherofthegroomYou can use either Ms or Mrs depending on their preference.  I'm Ms fan.  My mom on the other hand prefers Mrs.






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    Why not do a daughter of/son of?
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    This is for a short run of invitations that are only going out to FMIL's list. When she saw the finished invitations that read "Together with their families" she called FI crying because "her family is going to think that she didn't contribute toward her own son's wedding". She believes (and says this is always how she's seen invitations) that the parents are listed on the invitation in the order of their contribution, and those who do not contribute are not listed. I pointed out that is (a) not the case and (b) this isn't the proper venue for making statements about personal financial situations, but I was overruled. The compromise was the short run so she can have them worded the way she wants for her list. Everyone else is getting "Together w/ their parents"
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    Why is "together with their parents" off the table?
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    I would go with... Jane Motherofthebride and June Motherofthegroom request ....
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    Nevermind. You must have been typing that as I asked my question.
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    Why is"Together with their parents", not an option? Personally I would go with the parents of Bride Mrs whateverherlastnameis and Mr & hislastname & Parents of the groom Mr lastname and Mrs whateverherlastnameis, request your honor at B's name and G's name wedding on whateverdate you picked at whatever place you picked. Keep it simple. Your versions are just to much on an invite. Makes my head hurt.
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    So, with MOB, MOG, FOB, and FOG all seperate, where does MOG fall in the way of monetary contributions?  (if it's low on the money scale) I would totally list each one seperately, in the order of $ - that way she gets what she wants.Mr. and Mrs. MotherofthebrideandMr. and Mrs. FatheroftheGroomalong withMr. and Mrs. FatherofthebrideandMr. and Mrs.Motherofthegroom
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    It shouldn't be like that.  She is wrong.  Buy her Emily Post.
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    The invites should be left at 'Together with their families'. If you & your FI are not able to stand up to his mother on an issue this small, it does not bode well for your future.
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    Jenny&GregFan, I'm not going to rule out the possibility that there is some regional or cultural tradition I'm not familiar with, and since she's willing to have the revisions go to only her family/guests, I don't think this is worth trashing a relationship so I can say I was right and that she was unreasonable. Picking our battles doesn't doom us to divorce court.
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