Seting a date, Black Friday?

bella331

Is it tacky to have a wedding the day after Thanksgiving? I will be student teaching and cannot take off for a honeymoon until 2 weeks later when the semester is over...

danieliza1127

I wouldn't say it's tacky but you should know that it will be really hard for a lot of your guests who will probably rather be with family on Thanksgiving.  I would imagine you would have low attendance other than your own immediate families and local people who live in the area.

dukeylouise

I don't think it is tacky, but as a guest I wouldn't care much for having to go to a wedding and miss out on black friday deals.  That is when I do most of my Christmas shopping.

Nebb

Unless you were my sister or best friend, id rather go shopping for sales than go to a wedding.

bella331

Yeah, we were thinking the same things...just needed an outside opinion Thank you ladies!!

tidetravel

You do know that you don't have to take the HM immediately after the wedding, right?Travel costs for your guests will be signifigantly higher because it is a holiday, and many people have other holiday plans that a wedding would interfere/compete with.

lyndausvi

I personally do not have a problem with it. I've been to one before.  It was an evening wedding so the shoppers still got to shop.Then again I never shop on Black Friday, so that might be why I do not have an issue.

AlexiaANDRobert

Not tacky, but really inconvenient. That being said, everyone is bitching because my wedding date is on the same day as a pretty big college football game.  Boo.

vallyhoo

Agree with Lynda about the shopping part. I can't stand Black Friday.I don't think it is tacky and really depends how many of your guests will be from OOT.

mocha beans

Not tacky, but inconvenient.  After getting up long before the buttcrack of dawn to wade through thousands of cranky shoppers, I just want to sleep at 7 pm.

danieliza1127

I really don't see it having to do with shopping.  For me the problem is Thanksgiving.  If I live in one state and spend Thanksgiving there with my family, unless you are family or my very closest friend, I'm not going to be flying to your wedding and missing Thanksgiving with my family.  I would totally skip shopping for a wedding and think it's weird that some people here wouldn't. 

dukeylouise

I agree with Dani about traveling.  For me, I've never had to travel for Thanksgiving since all of my family live within an hour of each other.  If I did have to travel, or if I had family travel to come see me, I wouldn't want to go to a wedding.

angiebear11

I would totally skip shopping for a wedding and think it's weird that some people here wouldn't. Agreed. I hate "Black Friday" and I never have and never will go shopping on that day. People get soooooo stupid on this day, like how that woman got killed last year in Walmart.

bella331

We were actually thinking about doing it BECAUSE his sisters and his Uncle would be in town for the holiday, and would not have to make a special trip for it on another date. Also, as a teacher I would have off, as well as many of my friends and family, but I see what people are saying about the shopping...

danieliza1127

, but I see what people are saying about the shopping...I don't.  If my family member was getting married, I wouldn't chose shopping over her wedding.  Or I would go shopping early and come home and take a nap, and then go to the wedding.  Bella - my only point was any oot guests you might have might not want to miss Thanksgiving with their families, but if your families are going to be in town anyway and most of your other guests are local, then I see no problem with it.

tidetravel

His uncle may be in town, but there may be several other guests that are OUT of town visiting THEIR families, so it would be a hardship on them to travel to the wedding.  If you decide to keep it on that day, be mindful that you may be severely limiting your guest list.

AlexiaANDRobert

IMO, the shopping is totally irrelevant.  I just think it's WAY more $ to travel that weekend.  Even if you have room blocks, they're still a little more costly.  Plane tickets are higher. I DID go to a wedding last year that was the Saturday after Thanksgiving, but only because it was an hour away.  If it would have been any further, I wouldn't have gone. I was just talking to the bride and she said they invited 208 people and 98 were there.

lyndausvi

I think it's save to say if most of your guests are local then it is not really an issue. If you have a lot of OOT then it might be an issue.  But it also might not if family normally comes in anyway.

bella331

I was just talking to the bride and she said they invited 208 people and 98 were there.Thank you!!! That is really helpful. Our other date is in the spring...I think we will just go with that.

AlexiaANDRobert

Oh Bella, I'm sure every situation is different, that was just her personal experience.Travel that weekend is just hard on a lot of people.  With cost increases and long-standing traditions, it's hard to be everywhere at once.

ThePinkSuperhero

If everyone you wanted to invite was going to be in town, it might work.  My sister got married two days after Christmas, and all the family was already in town.  Most of their friends couldn't come (but most of their friends are poor college students, so they probably wouldn't have come anyway).

lyndausvi

bella - The black friday wedding I went to had 250+ people. You really can't base your projected numbers with a total strangers.  If family is going to be in town anyway then there is a good possibility it's a prefect date for you. 

betrothed123

I agree with Lynda.  You never know. It might be the perfect date for you.  Talk to the important guests (the people you can't imagine getting married without them being there), and find out how they would feel about it.  If your important guests are okay with it, and you think many of the others can make it, go for it.I also can't imagine going shopping over attending someone's wedding.  However, travel costs could be an issue.

fangsiting

Shopping on Black Friday is an early morning thing--at least if you want to get the good deals.  So unless the wedding was at 5am, I don't see it interfering with shopping.  I think your biggest issue would be thanksgiving.  Unless the wedding happened to be where my family or FI's family lived, I would consider it to be a major inconvenience.  I'd either have to fly to visit family for one day & then leave on Friday for the wedding or I'd have to skip family time.  

jessiegirl_98

I also don't understand the shopping argument. The stores are generally open at 5 or 6am. So, unless you're wedding is at 6am, we should be good (also, choosing shopping over a friend/relatives wedding is a bit nutty). That being said, I posted recently about a Thanksgiving wedding that I am very irritated about. I need to attend the wedding, so I am forced to miss Thanksgiving with my family which is very important to me.

ffmaid

My family has standing friday after thanksgiving plans so I would not attend. Also as you get married and try to balance two family commitments you might realize how common it is to have one set of family that has the thanksgiving the next day. Friday after thanksgiving is my favorite holiday I would only miss for sisters and honestly we might not be willing to miss for dh's sister

smokeybailey

Thanksgiving is nothing but a 4 day weekend in my family so something on Black Friday wouldn't be a problem (as long as there is not a football game that day...then it may be a problem!)  What works in your family may not work for others.  My family and friends wouldn't fret over missing thanksgiving dinner.  And flights ON Thanksgiving Day are actually reasonable but you know your people best:1.  Are they traditionalists that canNOT miss a thanksgiving dinner?2.  Lots of football fans?  Are any of them going to games (I have tickets to a big game that weekend and would be hard pressed to miss it.)3.  Do they have traditional after t-day plans-like travel, shopping, etc?4.  How many guests have to travel?  Travel can be expensive and inconvenient that weekend.  However, are lots of people local and the OOT guests will actually be IN town for t-day?Think about the things that best describe YOUR set of friends of family and determine if that date works.

bella331

So after much discussion with my fiance, we have decided to save more money, have a bigger budget, and wait until April 8, 2011!!! Plus, another big positive, I will be done student teaching...<3 Thanks for everyone's input!!