Is this rude?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

Our RSVP date is Monday. I'm missing half of our RSVP (that's if I count the people in the WP I'm sure will be coming - if I counted them, I would be missing at least 2/3).Anyway, is it rude to send out an email tomorrow reminding people to get us their RSVP's before Monday? Hoping it might save FI and me some time next week...

laurabb

julezleeyou have the greatest dress

sammyjo0320

I dont think its rude at all! our rsvp date is sep 18th and i know im going to have to make some calls. i dont even really have much time to extend it either. we have our meeting at the hall on the 19th! after next week..i may never want to look at a phone again!

bagast

I don't think it is rude, we had the same problem, but i gave them a week from the date, which we got probably about half of what we were missing. Then i had our parents contact the people who didn't rsvp. Which about half of those said they weren't coming and the other said they were, i got frustrated b/c i was like people the rsvp has a stamp just drop in the mail. But i guess that is hard for some.

Emily&Geoff

Wait until after the RSVP date has passed. You should have made the RSVP date several weeks in advance of needing a final head count. People are busy, people get mail-look at it briefly and don't do an RSVP right away. Be patient!

dieselsmomma

I didn't get the bulk of my rsvp's until after the due date. Most people will probably send them around that time. Wait and email later. I bet 1/2 are already en route

missphoenix

I would LOVE to have a list enforced at the reception with the people who actually sent their RSVP's and tell the others that just show up that we didn't get theirs so if they would like to join us after dinner we would be glad to have them...but I thought that sounded a little bridezilla so unfortunately I'll probably be calling a crap ton of people.A lady I work with told me she only got ten back when she got married so I'm not looking forward to it.

ATruesdell

No, I don't think it's rude at all. Mine's coming up soon, and I am in the same boat. I have like 1/3 of the cards. I've gotten verbal yes's or no's, but still. I probably e about half of them, including my Dad...and he's the one walking me down the aisle! But, no, I think someone would feel special if you followed up with a call or email to ensure their attendance...I would, anyway. :)Angela

anwallette

I sent an email a week before just as a "reminder" about RSVPs and we got a surprisingly 3/4 of the missing RSVPs. We still had to chase down a few people after the RSVP date....but this was no surprise given who the people were! It's not rude at all...you need the numbers for your caterers and its only fair! Good luck!

abominablesnowqueen

I would send out a friendly e-mail reminder, or you could even give them a call to let them know. Sometimes people forget. I think every bride has this problem. People wait until the last minute to turn in their RSVP's. I wouldn't wait too long after the date has passed though. You've sent out the invitations in a timely manner and it's their responsibility to turn them in.

LeAnna&Tom

I set my RSVP date way early (lots of out of towners), I still was missing lots a week after the date passed...I enlisted FI sister & my mom to start calling/emailing..I got a few more in the next couple of days.  When I was at 30 days I just had my mom call the rest and call the people who were with guest (wiht no name) and we were able to cut 32 people in total. That gave us enough room in hte budget to add a choc fountain.  Our target nubmer was 200 and we are at 170.  I am at 14days and #'s are already turned in, just a couple last minute things to take care of and I am ready.

lildragonflies

Not rude at all. I am having my MOH call people who haven't RSVP'd. And even those who have since we didn't have response cards. Then she can give me the final head count. How else are you supposed to know?

cinderellabride81

It is not rude to ask. You need the head count. I recieved 6 response cards after the reply by date. One of our invites said he hadn't even opened his yet. Some of ours called us or e-mailed us.