Wedding Etiquette Forum

FFIL and rehearsal dinner

What is the proper etiquette regarding parents and the rehearsal dinner? FI's mom and dad are divorced; relationship with his dad is polite at best. His role in the wedding is simply as a guest, and since we planned to limit the rehearsal dinner to those in the wedding party, we didn't invite him. He has informed us he's planning on coming to town early and seems to be hinting at being a part of the rehearsal dinner. I'm not sure we're changing plans to include him, but it made me wonder what the standard is in this situation. Both of our moms and stepdads are included as they are a part of the planning and wedding day. Thoughts?

Re: FFIL and rehearsal dinner

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    Generally all parents and step-parents of the bride and groom are invited to the RD.
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    It would be a slight to exclude parents or siblings from the RD. My H doesn't have much of a relationship with his dad (we really didn't think he'd come to the wedding) but we invited him. It was the right thing to do.
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    All parents are invited to the RD as a courtesy.  The only time I wouldn't is if he's not invited to the wedding at all. 
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    I've never been to a RD that didn't have the parents invited.

    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    Unless there is a real concern that he will cause drama/problems at the dinner, I'd include him.  All parents are usually invited to the rehearsal dinner.
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