Help me love my dress again

ricksang

I love the dress. You look great WTF? Snap out of it.

beatlesgirl25

Carrie, ricks, thanks very much. I'm getting some more positive perspective on the whole thing... it's just been me and my crazy and my dress for the past 6 months all having a party in my head, so it's been nice to get some feedback.

arbolita

 Hahaha.  You are not alone.  I'm going through the same thing, and I'm 8 days out - I got my pictures back from my final fitting and was feeling completely freaked out because I feel like I picked the wrong dress for my body type.  But my dress has detachable straps, which even though I love, by removing them it improves the dress 100 times over. Tell your photographer your concerns over yourself in certain angles of the dress and see if they can work with that, because in the two pics you posted, it looks amazing on you

andilion

Your body makes the dress look awesome, and vice versa.

beatlesgirl25

Arb, THANK YOU for the helpful advice! That's a great idea about pictures, because I know there are angles of me in that dress that make me look wide because the design is all mono, everywhere. But more importantly, I love your dress! I think it's perfect for your body, or at least looks that way. The straps are very pretty, that's too bad you had to part with them, but I'm glad it worked out for you. It looks wonderful... good luck in 8 days!

arbolita

Yeah, the dress was fine before they took it in to fit my waist, and because of the material and my propotions, the two were just not a good match.  I haven't put up my pictures from my last fitting because I don't know what happened, but it looks worse than it did in the previous two. But taking away the straps makes me look less like a box, so I'll take what I can get

beatlesgirl25

Hm, did something change in the dress or in your expectations or perspective? You look like you have an hourglass figure, so that's bound to come through, regardless of how "boxy" it may feel. The detailing on your dress will really make the curves pop too.

arbolita

I think my expectations are too high because I feel like I should look better than I ever have on my wedding day, and based on the pictures from the other day, that's not it.  The reason I have an hourglass is because I had hip surgeries when I was 13, and there's a lot of scar tissue that built up on my hips that I can't get rid of, and I've just never been comfortable with it.  So when it's emphasized, I feel self conscious and like it's more pronounced than maybe it seems to other people. If that makes sense.

beatlesgirl25

I'm sorry to hear about your surgeries, and I understand why you'd be self-conscious. But really, you have a figure to die for. I'm guilty of that expectation to look the best ever on the big day too, so at least we're aware of it. My H&M lady really kept me grounded by insisting that I need to look like me on my wedding day, and not some decked out, magazine version of me that isn't who is really getting married. I wanted all this artistic makeup done and fake lashes, anything to obscure my natural features and make them glamorous, but it wasn't me. Well, I'm still keeping the lashes, but the point was made. I hope you find a happy place with the dress. As others have said, it's going to make all the difference on the day of, with hair, makeup, nails, flowers, and accessories, plus the excitement... you won't be able to help but feel beautiful.

saschaduran

I think it's beautiful!  I looked at a dress very similar to that one.  You look gorgeous in it!

lulling

I have the same dress. I really love it, but I know what you mean about not having a lot of support. I planned on having cups sewn in as the top will really flatten you out because there is nooooo support there. I, too, am pear shaped but I tried on dresses that would "hide" it...and it just looked like I was hiding it. I think it looks great on you.

beatlesgirl25

Thanks sasha! Lulling, congrats on the dress.   I think the key is in the undergarments. I was able to find a bustier low enough not to show in the back and that provided great support for the boobs from VS, but the tummy part is awful! It's made of like foam or something squishy that folds over like belly fat when you bend over or sit down. I could really use some boning in there (that's what she said). I think if you found a bustier with some firm support in the tummy, you'd feel more structure to the dress. The tough part is finding something that won't show in the back, because it's so low. Good luck, I'm sure you will look gorgeous!

lulling

I know, my original plan was foiled because I was going to get the Spanx that came all the way up to under the bra line. Then I realized that they would stick out the back. I may still try to find a corset. The problem is that I have no cleavage so then it sticks out at the lowest part of the V. I still have a little time and I go to my seamstress in two weeks. I think she will set me straight. Nice to know that I am not the only one with the problem...but it is a great dress, you look great it in, and I am hoping that I will too. I wish you luck.

beatlesgirl25

Likewise. If all else fails, you can get something that hooks (bustier or corset) and leave the top few hooks undone so it doesn't show but still supports. Good luck!

phoeny_moonstar

I think your dress looks stunning on you.

danieliza1127

beatlesgirl - you're crazy.  That dress is beautiful and you look awesome in it.  Once your hair and make up is done, watch out!  Stop worrying!!

bbyckes

Your dress is gorgeous and you look amazing in it.  Please. You will look perfect. 

buttaflai

Ditto all of them. The shape on you is gorgeous! Congrats on losing the weight!

baystateapple

That was the first dress I tried on.  I wanted it so badly. I looked like a moose in it. It flatters you in all the right ways.  You're going to look like a million bucks on your wedding day.

lily5727

Just like what everyone else said I think you look lovely in that dress and you don't look preggers. You are far from a pear shape that kind of dress looks great on your shape.  I love the train very very elegant.

razdazzle_22377334

I love your dress and you look GORGEOUS!  I think hair, make-up, jewelry might help.  If that doesn't, just think about how happy you will be that day, there is no better beauty treatment IMO.

ffmaid

You are lovely and the lacework on that dress is very pretty. Although seriously the dress is not what matters the look in your fi's eyes when he sees you in the dress will matter