Etiquette question

jabloch

A good acquaintance from the office was recently married and did not invite me and my fiance to their wedding. I wasn't hurt at all, knowing that they were planning a small wedding due to some fiscal constraints.I'd like to invite the couple to our May 2010 wedding, which will be much bigger. The question is, should I send them something to mark their wedding? I was thinking card. My fiance says gift. I don't have a problem with sending a gift, but I want to do the right thing!

shellydiane820

Either or would be fine.  Its a nice gesture, but not necessary.

jessiegirl_98

If you want to, I would just get them a card. You aren't obligated to do anything. I wasn't invited to a coworkers wedding, which was only 50 people. I invited her to our wedding, which was HUGE because we had the space (and we had become closer). She said she was honored that we still invited her.

danieliza1127

Do whatever you would normally do when someone gets married and you're acquaintances but not invited, regardless of the fact that you are inviting them to your wedding.  The two don't have anything to do with each other. 

apple_green

You don't have to get them anything.

Lauren Exley

You do whatever you WANT to do for the couple. There are no etiquette constraints here.

ffmaid

A card or a gift would be lovely but is not required . Gifts are never required but always a lovely way to show your joy and affection if they fit your budget