No Kid Wedding

julesmarie1030

In order to cut down our guest list my fiance and I are thinking about not inviting children to our wedding. He has a huge wedding and we can't afford more than 200 people. We figure it will be an easy way to cut down on the guest list and neither of us has really close family with small children. Is this okay to do? What age is a good cut off, 16?

Kati0105

I think 18 makes more sense than 16 personally.

Calypso1977

we did not invite any one under 18. another good way to cut numbers is eliminate "and guest" and only invite couples who are married, engaged, or seriously involved/living together.  yoru single friend will find others singles to mingle with  - they dont need dates.  that will cut out a lot of random people there that you dont even know.

danieliza1127

I think 18 is a good cut-off if you really want an adults only wedding.  Just be sure to address the invitations to exactly those invited and don't use "& Family" if you know the family includes children under your age cut-off.  Also anyone over 18 gets their own invite, even if they are in college or live at home.How to Specify an Adults Only Wedding | eHow.com

eastunder1

Ditto others.  If you're going to do 16, just go ahead and bump it to 18.  That was it truly is "no kids" instead of mostly no kids except for one or two teenagers."  People will have less room to complain, you have much less headaches.

sarabellam

Since when is an 18 year old not a teenager?

julesmarie1030

We were going to choose 16 becuase my fiance has some cousins that he would like to be there that are 16 or 17, but 18 is a good idea also. Thanks for the advice! I'm glad to hear that others have done this because my mother wasn't too sure when I suggested it. She doesn't want to hurt anyone in the family's feelings, but I think they will understand and might even be happy to not have to bring their kids!!

mrs*macklin

wow... we were going to do no one under 10 to cut costs... maybe i should rethink that!

Shleigh02

I also am planning a 'no kids' wedding. The guideline I used was if a person can sit for 30mins w/o talking or climbing around in their seat, they can come. so preteens 11,12,13 will be invited (although there aren't many young people in my family). I'm trying to avoid watching my wedding video in 20 yrs and hearing some snotty kid yell 'ahhh mama blah blah blah' during my vows. I went to a friends wedding a few years ago, and there were two little snot nose kids running around w/poop on ther hands. I guess you have to know your crowd too. If you know the families w/kids you are inviting have good kids who are supervised and quiet then that's fine, but if you have someone who'd kid is a holy terror, just don't invite any kids. But of course, it's all or nothing.

Kati0105

I'm trying to avoid watching my wedding video in 20 yrs and hearing some snotty kid yell 'ahhh mama blah blah blah' during my vows.When I was 2 I went to my aunt and uncle's wedding and randomly shouted out "baby, baby, baby!" when they asked if anyone had any objections.  It was particularly unfortunate since the bride was 2 months pregnant at the time and most of the family knew that.

kinsey0628

LOL to katie. another good way to cut numbers is eliminate "and guest" and only invite couples who are married, engaged, or seriously involved/living together. yoru single friend will find others singles to mingle with - they dont need dates. that will cut out a lot of random people there that you dont even know.sorry, but i think it's tacky, insulting and rude not to give single people a plus 1.  who are you to judge how serious your friends' relationships are? or to determine that they don't need a date and will be fine spending the evening mingling with other random single people.

julesmarie1030

"sorry, but i think it's tacky, insulting and rude not to give single people a plus 1. who are you to judge how serious your friends' relationships are? or to determine that they don't need a date and will be fine spending the evening mingling with other random single people." I completely agree! Before we were engaged my fiance got an invitation to a wedding without "and guest" so I wasn't invited....we had been living together for a year!!! I was sooo insulted. And we actually ended up getting engaged before the wedding and an invitation still wasn't extended to me. It wasn't even a small, intimate wedding (that I would have understood) they had around 300 guests!! you can't tell me they couldn't make room for one more.... needless to say that couple will NOT be getting an invitation to our wedding