Bridezilla poll

Travis&Cari

Did you go ape on someone during the planning process or on your wedding day?Did they deserve it?If you're still planning, is there someone you think might cause you to unleash the fury?

Brie2010

Yep, but not to their face.  She absolutely 100% deserved it.I refuse to deal with the psycho and incompetent chapel secretary for the rest of our wedding planning.  FI, who is much more calm and patient, will deal with her from here on out.  The only thing I'm going to do pertaining to her ever again is to write a very strongly worded letter to her boss after the wedding is over.

crfische

Uhh...Not that I can think of.NAI'm planning to go to work tomorrow, that's about it.

brookelynpaisley

My FMIL will likely be the one to push me over the edge if it happens.

mandysmear

I didn't really go ape.  But, an hour before the rehearsal dinner my sister pulled a drama fest and decided it was a good idea for her to tell me that I had said something earlier that morning to hurt her feelings.  So, I said, "really?!  are you really doing this to me the day before my wedding?"  Yup.  I pulled the I'M THE BRIDE CARD.  Everything was fine within 10 minutes. 

Travis&Cari

I haven't lost it...yet.  But I'm getting kind of close.  There is a certain song we want as our recessional.  It took a long time to get approval.  When I hired our ceremony musicians I told them from the start we wanted the recessional song to be a pre-recorded thing. He said fine and we signed contract.  Now he tells me to have musicians push play on an I-pod is insulting and that they will learn the song.  I highly doubt a 3 piece can sound like an orchestra.  FI says he needs to play the song for us and we approve or it has to be Ipod.  If this man fights me on this I might loose my sh!t.

veronabrit

i tried to pull the IM A BRIDE card like 10 times on my mom...no dice. FML.I am still hurt by it...but I can't dwell on it because i'd rather remember the amazing memories.

temerityjane

I haven't yet and I'm not sure if I will - but I can tell you that if one more person says "just elope, it's obviously the best idea" as if they're the first person to ever suggest such a thing to a bride in the planning process, I'm going to punch their teeth in.Seriously, stupidest, most useless advice ever.

jaimebeth9

I WISH I had freaked out on multiple people, but I was too worried about being nice. 

Brie2010

I'm pretty sure that if I do flip out on someone day before or day of, it will be my sister.I think my mom is going to give her a very stern "BEHAVE" lecture though.  They usually work in the short term.

crfische

What's the song, Cari?

RachNRich

Not to her face, but I freaked the fuuck out on the bridal shop owner who ruined my wedding dress by cutting a chunk out (as a fabric sample), and one of her employees removed all of the tags (inside an out). She certainly deserved it, and ended up ordering a brand new dress. I'm still planning, so I have a feeling I will unleash fury on the same woman again before this is all over.

Travis&Cari

tj - if one more divorced person tells me how stupid marriage is I'm going to throw down too.  Or if one more of our friends tells us that sex & BJs stop after marriage.  So far I just tell them that if what they got in return was worth it, their wives wouldn't have stopped.

LesPaul

No.  I did all the planning, so . . . . no.  Everything was fantastic on my wedding day, so it doesn't really matter who I was PO'd at anywhere in the process.

sarah0725

As of today, I'm one year and 11 months out, so it's kind of hard to tell what will happen. At the moment, people are being pretty chill. Both moms can get a little crazy in their own ways, but so far it hasn't been anything that we couldn't all work out. I will admit, though, that there are certain things that I would like just so, and I may get a little weird about them as time progresses. We'll see how it all goes.

ExpatPumpkin

I don't know if this counts, but... I caught a cold a few days before the wedding. Then I spent Friday night vomiting and got about two hours of sleep. By 4AM I was convinced that the rehearsal dinner food was bad and that everyone - DW, so everyone was at the RD - was sick. I didn't realize that it was nerves and that your body could betray you so. In the morning, I felt hoooooooorrible. No sleep, a cold, and the throwing up all night had taken its toll. So I CRIED LIKE A BABY at the ladies breakfast. My MIL is very reserved, so she was mortified I'm sure. Luckily, the girls in the spa gave me warm tequila with lemon and honey... I got married on that and DayQuil. Oh, and Visine is a life saver.

Brie2010

Expat, if that's what you look like after a night of puking and not sleeping...I kind of hate you.Except I'm still using your hair pictures for inspiration.

Travis&Cari

fische -  it's an incredible orchestra version of Light My Fire.  It had a lot of meaning to us.  We've kept it a secret from our families because we want them to just hear it for the first time at the ceremony.  We are having a Jewish wedding and were told the music HAD to be Jewish music.  FI figured out that the original composer of the song was Jewish, thus Jewish music.  We won and now if this musician stands in my way I fear what may happen.

ExpatPumpkin

Brie - Hahaha, you should have seen me in the morning I'm telling you, the warm tequila does wonders - should be required drinking for every bride. And the Visine, too.

temerityjane

Oh wait, I did flip out on my sister at one point. At first she tried to refuse being Maid of Honor because she doesn't like to be the center of attention. She did agree to be the MOH, though, so no problems there. I'm not super picky about the wedding day, so I've basically told her that all the things she was worried about with being the MOH won't happen. I won't ask her to do anything pre-wedding unless she wants to. She does not have to make a speech. There will be no wedding party dance because she doesn't want to dance and doesn't want to be stared at for sitting it out. She is picking the style of BM dress, because she doesn't want one of her tattoos to show. This isn't just her, by the way. Since I really have no "wedding dream" or preconceived notions of how I want the wedding to be, I'm pretty go with the flow on everything.I was explaining to her, though, that the best man will be standing at the front with Buddy, so she will walk down the aisle alone. She immediately started with "Oh my god, I don't want to walk down alone, come OOOONN..." and that's when I lost it."You are picking the dress, you don't have to make a speech, there's not going to be a bridal party dance and I'm not going to ask you to do shiit, BUT IT IS MY GODDAAMNED WEDDING AND I AM YOUR SISTER AND IT IS NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK THAT YOU WALK DOWN AN AISLE FOR 40 SECONDS, GET OVER IT."She got over it.

Travis&Cari

 Expat, you looked amazing and composed.  I would never have guessed you were sick and emotional. 

ExpatPumpkin

Cari - I think it was a combination of the excitement, the tequila, Visine, and an amazing make up artist. The day after the wedding, I felt MUCH better. So nerves really do exacerbate a cold.

Audrey_03

I don't freak out or go ballistic, when things get exceptionally crazy I just shrug and go with either "Whatever" or "I don't care" -- nothing is so "omfg it HAS to be this specific way or I'll DIE" that it's worth throwing a tantrum over. As for psycho guests and family -- some people are determined to have drama and turmoil. If they want that then they can have it. I can't force them to have fun or be nice, so screw'em.

NotNumbers

Not yet, but there is still time... My FMIL & FFIL arrive a month before the wedding.  I've never met either of them and, due to a language barrier, have also never really talked to them.  They are staying in our house and she is used to ruling the roost.  Yes, I'm a little concerned about how that's all going to work out and hope it doesn't come to a meltdown.

Travis&Cari

It's not that I have to have anything a certiain way or I will DIE.  It's just that, at least in my case, there is ONE thing that FI and I absolutely want at our wedding.  We have been so relaxed and are going with the flow about everything and it's fine, but it's frustrating when there is one thing we want for our wedding day and people are giving us a hard time about it.

TheSaltyPeanut

During our RD, DH's best man's kids were INSANE. It was a nice place and the two kids were just running around screaming high pitched screams. Then, the kids' mother whips out her camera and started to take pictures. Everyone was commenting about it behind their backs right in the room. OMG it was awful. Not a ten second incident, but like 40 minutes. I never said anything, but I remember counting to 10 several times and tight lipped smiling at certain people, then we would bust out laughing. I still get mad thinking about how anyone could let their kids behave like that.

kkchisholm

I accidently flipped out when FI didn't like the DJ we interviewed today when I did. I was semi irrational.

mocha beans

Not yet, but I fear there may be issues developing with the venue, I've seen far more negative reviews than postive reviews.  I'm waiting to see if they're mostly construction issues and will be worked out by next year.I'm also ready to flip out on the next person that says we should just JOP it.  Yes, a wedding is expensive, yes, it's only one day, yes, we've been together for 6 years, yes, we've lived together for most of that and have a house.  But I want the memories of the celebration of our committment.  I don't give a flying fuuck that it didn't matter to YOU, or that you feel that in hindsight it was a waste of money to YOU.  It might matter to ME, and I WILL have that chance to make my own decision in the future on how much it was worth to me.

lyndausvi

Nope. Not once. But I've never been know to go ape ship for any reason.

Travis&Cari

Well put Mocha.