Save the Date = Invitation

jlguth

Does sending save the date information automatically mean the people are invited to the wedding? We made the mistake of sending out save the dates too early to local guests. These are guests we used to spend time with, but we are finding we are not spending time with these people anymore. Have we obligated ourselves to sending them an invitation?

jaimebeth9

If they get a STD they get a wedding invitation. 

brookelynpaisley

Yes. You asked them to Save the Date for your wedding. You can't not invite them. They'll likely decline if they feel the same way as you about not spending time together anymore.

berryholly

Yes. You have to invite them.

AmeliaMarie

Yes, Save the Date must equal an invitation, unless you are willing to stop being friends with these people.

LesPaul

You're pretty much obligated.  That's why the universal advice is to wait on the STDs until your guest list is pretty secure.  You can send very early STDs to OOT family that you are positive you will be inviting and might need to make travel arrangements, but to send them early to just anyone is a mistake. 

scoetto

Yes, an STD means an invite. We uninvited guests that got STDs. We also understand we won't be friends with these people anymore. And we're ok with that. It was a cleaning of the closet, if you will. We had some life changing events happen and realized we did not want these people to be a part of our lives any longer. Without going into too many details, the only advice I can offer is if you choose to uninvite these people, be prepared to give explainations and lose friendships. We wrote a letter to each one detailing the circumstances and was done with it. Only 2 people called and asked for more details. So it turns out we didn't really matter to them anyway. It was the best decision for us ever.

ktjanesmom

I say you dont have to invite anyone to your wedding that you do no want to invite.  They may find it strange that they did get a STD but no invitation to the wedding but who cares.  Things change, circumstances change.  Where did this idea of STD's come from anyway?

Brie2010

I say you dont have to invite anyone to your wedding that you do no want to invite. They may find it strange that they did get a STD but no invitation to the wedding but who cares. Things change, circumstances change. Where did this idea of STD's come from anyway?This is terrible advice.If you don't want to invite people, don't send them an STD, which they then might justifiably rely on to make flight and hotel arrangements.  It is rude.  How would you feel if you got a STD, took off work, booked a flight, and then never got an invitation?  It's ridiculous.Since you sent these people an STD but you're not really friends anymore, just invite them.  If the friendship is dead, they probably won't come anyway.

nda_roxybabe

I'd be very put off if I received an STD but not an invite. I mean, wth

MeaghanandMichael

hey may find it strange that they did get a STD but no invitation to the wedding but who cares. Things change, circumstances change. Where did this idea of STD's come from anyway?Yeah don't pay attention to this. People will care. Even if they are not as close friends with you anymore it is not appropriate to take back invites ever. This reminds me of the immaturity level of the 1st grade playground, "you're not invited to my birthday party any more!"The idea of STDs are to facilitate your guest's travel plans. It is a helpful way to give people a heads up about any vacation time they may have to budget from work and things of this nature.

ffmaid

Yes you asked them to save teh date with teh implication being that at some point on that date they were invited to your wedding they must now get a real invite. This is teh problem with STD as they put a burden on teh host but not teh guests