Something to chew on

shellydiane820

My cousin gave her boyfriend her promise ring back (a nice ring, its past, present future and around a half carat by looking at it) So he could exchange the ring and get credit towards a $5000 engagement ring.  She said she wants a ring that's at least that much.I can't believe we share the same blood.

Nebb

Did he then tell her she could go shove her 5000$ engagement ring?

mwhitson14

I have a feeling she's gonna be a briiiiiidezilla.

veronabrit

I don't really see the problem with this...she won't wear the promise ring (which is stupid anyways) after she gets the e-ring. I'd rather upgrade too. Not everyone has the same tastes. Maybe she wants a larger stone or maybe she wants a different ring alltogether...I don't see a problem with it. I plan to upgrade my ring someday too.

shellydiane820

No.  I don't think I've heard him say two words before. All I know is he works at Best Buy, he's a cashier.My aunt said "oh he'll probably ask his parents for money." ...Mind you this is the aunt who still "borrows" money from my grandma, and my parents have paid for one of her divorces.

mwhitson14

Well I had a promise ring and I still wear it on my right hand because it's a very pretty three stone ring.

RachNRich

I understand trading the ring in--that makes sense. Requiring a ring of at least $5000=bullshitts.

shellydiane820

Sorry Brit.  Its not so much that, I don't care about upgrading.  Its the fact they both work jobs that don't pay crap (I would know, I work a job like this too)  And she acts so entitled about it.She won't settle for anything less.

notquiteblushing

He probably shouldn't have wasted that much $ on a promise ring anyway.

Nebb

Its all well and good to have an idea of the ring you want, even to pick it out, but to dictate to your SO how much they have to spend on it, and it be an ungodly expensive amount, is really... superficial.

shellydiane820

...Its like she's taking him for richer or richer.  That bugs the crap out of me.

veronabrit

lol then she is with the wrong guy! if she expect a ring that costs over a certain amount, she should date an attorney or doctor, not a cashier at Best Buy.

mocha beans

Did he SAY he was going to buy her a ring and wanted the promise ring as a credit to the engagement ring that costs that much?  That, I find okay; less money up front and I'd rather have an engagement ring than a promise ring and an engagement ring.But, if she gave it to him and EXPECTS him to buy a $5k ring, whether he's said anything about it or not, I give that the side eye.

crfische

You can get a really ugly ring for 5 grand. Or you could get a pretty one.But that can happen if you spend 500 bucks, too.The price does not the ring make.

shellydiane820

I don't know the details of that.  This is just what I heard.  I sat and rolled my eyes. Then I started thinking about how proud of my relationship I was.

mocha beans

Ha, no cashier at Worst Buy is going to be able to afford a $5k ring, unless he hasn't spend any money on anything else at all.

megk8oz

I have a feeling that her "promise" ring is the EXACT (down to the stone size) same ring as my e-ring.It never occurred to me that I could just tell FI he had a MINIMUM to spend on my ring....Then again, if I had found out he dropped 5k on the ring when we have a mortgage and a wedding to pay for, I'd probably be more than a little miffed that he spent it on JEWELRY instead of something a little more useful. But that's just me.

aerinpegadrak

I gave FI a heart attack when I was looking at rings that cost like $20,000 at an estate jewelry shop.  I wasn't seriously considering buying one, but they were really pretty and they'd let you try them on.  He said he was honestly more concerned that I wasn't going to like the ring than that I wouldn't say yes.I have no idea how much my ring cost.  It's not really my business.

shellydiane820

I just can't imagine.  I wish I would have said something.

sucrets4

Shelly - today my bff (and our officiant) told me that she was performing a wedding for someone who needed to get married "before her actual wedding date" because she got fired and lost her insurance.All I wrote in the text was "wow, that's a sticky situation!".

ExpatPumpkin

Poor thing Next, she'll be wanting an expensive wedding. I'm sure she has NO IDEA how much it costs.

Ciaram22

If I had told DH what amount he had to spend on my e-ring he would have left me. I'm one of the younger group and I would never tell him or anyone how much something had to be.

BubbleJ

My FI set me a budget (waaaay less then hers) and i spent 1/3 of it on my ering. Why does it need to be about price? Mine is lovely and like I said, not very expensive.

MissSarah786

Tim would be seriously heart broken if I ever considered upgrading my ring, not that I would. He doesn't think of it as a piece of jewelry but rather as a marker of where we started, where we've come from, and how long we've been together. To upgrade would do away with all that.

Ciaram22

MissSarah, I could never upgrade mine either. It means too much to me.