Awkward shower question

mandapanda78

My FILs live across the country and we won't see them until everyone gets to South Carolina for the wedding.  FMIL wants to throw me a shower in SC- which is totally sweet and lovely of her. The problem is that she wants me to plan it. She told me to pick a restauranta and a theme and send out invites. I feel really awkward throwing myself a party, even if she's technically hosting it. Suggestions?

betrothed123

I'd have to decline.  I wouldn't have had the time to plan my own shower, and I would have felt really wierd doing it.  I would be able to suggest places for it, but beyond that I'd wash my hands of it.

danieliza1127

So if it's in SC, does that mean it's going to be right before your wedding, like the same weekend of your wedding?  And you're supposed to plan it?  I'd have to talk to her about that.  Maybe you have a BM that could help?

SwedishChick2011

I would just politely decline. 

MandaBelle1211

I would also have to decline.  I'm sure you have a lot on your plate and you could use that as reasoning, too.  Also, bethrothed...your siggy is pretty big.  I am honestly not trying to be rude, some people just get upset by it.    

ffmaid

Tell her that the thought is nice but that you know that it is an ettiquette faux pas for a bride to plan her own shower and that although you appreciate her offer you must decline

betrothed123

Bellini,Yo, get over it.  My siggy was been disucssed once a few months back and it was determined that most people were fine with it.  If you don't like it, block it.

*BeachBride0410*

You could give her some locations that the shower could be held at, since you know the area.  Provide her with contact info.  But as far as all the planning goes, I would politely tell her that you shouldn't really plan your own shower. 

mandapanda78

The first time I met her she kicked all of the boys out of the house, got me drunk and then interrogated me about my intentions with her son. It was a blast. I'm thinking I'll tell her instead of a shower I'd love a repeat. They're renting a beach house for the wedding, so we could just make the boys go away and have a girls night in. Something informal instead of a shower. Thanks all!

danieliza1127

That sounds like a good idea Manda.  Otherwise if she insists on a shower, it sounds like you have  good enough relationship with her to just tell her that you're uncomfortable or won't have time and to suggest she ask one of your BMs to help out instead.

MandaBelle1211

Holy defensive there.  I wasn't here a few months ago so I knew nothing about said discussion.  And, I personally do not care but figured I would give you the heads up.

betrothed123

Maybe you should leave ragging on the regs to the big girls.