STD mailing question

kmt_cas

What do you do with bf's/gf's of the wedding party?  Do you send them individual STD's/invites? I love all the significant others' of our WP but they are really only invited if they are still dating the people in our wedding party.I was originally not going to send STD's to them, but I was talking to our best man and he thought it was rude not to send one to his gf.  What do you ladies think?(A huge reason why I'm so reluctant is because one of my best friends just broke up with her bf of 5 years completely out of the blue. We're still 9 months out, and after that breakup I've decided anything can happen.)

Kati0105

I am not sending separate STDs to BFs/GFs of guests unless they live together. When invites go out I will be listing all the sig others on the envelopes.  My reasoning is similar to yours.  While I would hope none of my friends would break up with their S/Os prior to January it just doesn't seem worth the risk.

sarah0725

I don't think you should be sending anyone STDs in the mail. Talk about a health hazard.Real answer: if your best man is really worried about it, and really sure that he is going to marry his GF, you could consider sending her one to shut him up. Other than that, you should really only be sending them to OOT or very busy guests who you are absolutely certain will be on the invite list. The purpose of telling them to save the date is to make sure they can clear their calendar and make travel arrangements.

kmt_cas

Lol Sarah Thanks ladies, that's what I was thinking.  All of our guests are OOT including them which complicates the issue a little, but they obviously know the date since they are with the people in the wedding.  I'll have FI figure out how upset BM would be if we didn't send one to his gf and go from there.  With everyone else I'm too reluctant to send individualized STD's, I just wanted to see if I was out of line somehow.

megk8oz

I'm not sending anybody's "Plus 1" an STD or an invite. Because, like you, if they aren't together the day of the wedding, then there is no reason for them to be there, even if I like them.If you're best man REALLY won't leave you alone about, I guess send her one, but first maybe try explaining to him that you already know he's going to bring her, and he already knows he's invited, so really what's the big deal?