How Do You Define Love?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

This is one of the questions on my pre-marital counseling worksheet.My first thought was that it's undefinable. But I'm sure that's not an answer our pastor will accept.So, I thought I'd take a little P&E poll.And go

anna.oskar

I have the same question on my worksheet.   I wrote: Love is when you trip and drop your fiance's brand new laptop and he's more concerned about whether YOU are okay.

[Deleted User]

The fact that FI brings me home cercies of rice krispy treats and will go to the store and get tampons for me. 

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

LOL, Anna, that's great.My best friend wrote on hers: "Love is when your fiance does something ridiculously stupid and you want to kill him, but you fight the urge and let him live another day." (Her pastor has an awesome sense of humor)

longboatbride

It is a very vague question. There are all kinds of love. Love of a mother for a child, a women for a man, me for chocolate... I htink you're right to cal it undefinable.

ggmae

[url]http://www.slinkycity.com/what-kids-think-about-love.html[/url] So funny. I'd say that love is putting someone (spouse, parent, child, sibling, etc) before yourself and doing whatever you can in your power to be there for them. It's more than just saying "I love you."  It's what you do to prove that love that means the most.

saschaduran

I actually thought of this just yesterday. My past relationships consisted of either a.  people I had strong chemistry with and was crazy about, that I had constant drama and heartache over, 2.  good people that bored me so I cheated on them all the time, and c.  people who were good enough to hang out and have fun dates and have as a booty call, but I would never be in a relationship with them.So, for me, true love was finally finding a person who I have strong chemistry with, who always challenges and never bores me, and that I love having sex with.  He makes me feel safe, secure and completely fulfilled.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

Some of these are ridiculous (or maybe I'm just not good at articulating things).How do you define family? How do you define marriage? In my opinion, these are not things you define, but things that just are (with the exception of a legal marriage). As far as I'm concerned, FI and I are already married because of the life we live, but I couldn't tell you when we took it to that level or what changed.

shawna77inil

I found this quote online and have used it ever since. Love - It's not about who you picture your life with, it's who you CAN'T picture your life WITHOUT. That was the most concise definition I have ever found, and I agree with it completely.

ggmae

I would define family as a unit made up of people who constantly support one another through good times and bad. To me, just because someone may be related to me by blood doesn't make them family. I consider my 2 best girl friends to be family, and we have no blood relation whatsoever. I would define marriage as the legal act, as you said. There are many people in committed relationships who aren't married yet, choose not to get married, or can't get married. They don't love each other any less than those going through the marriage process.

janedoe1113a

[url]http://talk.theknot.com/boards/ShowPost.aspx?PostID=62115217&forumid=588[/url]This girl on my club board defines her daughter as the definition of love.  I guess the rest of us without kids are screwed.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

LOL Navy.I wonder if my puppy counts? Me being able to love that little monster unconditionally should show that I know what love truly is. I wonder if I can bring in an example...kind of like show and tell

mwhitson14

Vogt, no, it doesn't count. You have to actually MAKE him from your love.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt

Well, shoot Whit. I could say something kind of disgusting about bathroom habits now, but it's dinnertime, and that person probably wouldn't appreciate me comparing her child to poo

mwhitson14

LOL!

missy68

My answer seems fairly simple, but it is what was lacking in my prior relationship. We are a "we." FI never defines us as "you" and "me" but "us/we". Even early on, when it would have made it simple to walk away and it was an LDR. If I can't sleep (which happens occasionally, even with my sleeping medication - thanks chronic insomnia), FI will get up and sit with me. WE are facing OUR (I brought the dog I've had since 1995 and he loves her as if he picked her out, too) dog's illness together, and thought we were facing her euthanasia together 2 weeks ago. Even though the house has been his for 10 years, he calls it OUR mortgage, and we discuss finanacial matters relating to it TOGETHER. We've had a joint account for over a year to deal with household bills. We contribute fairly based on our income. Of course, this also means the chocolate and the Oreos I sock away become OURS.... and as such, tend to disappear quickly. We talk through problems, we apologize quickly, we respect each other. I never said this before, but he is my best friend.

laladypoet

love is never having to say, "I'm sorry I was so drunk that I threw up on your peen while giving you a hummer."