Gift or no gift? That is the question...

megan.reboulet

Hello future brides..  Question of the day...  I'm having two showers, both of which my in laws, and parents are invited to...  Okay I need to tell them don't bring a gift to each because that's just be being greedy.  But every time I'm writing this e mail, it's making me sound like I expect a gift at one (which is obvious, that's what you do; bring gifts to a wedding shower). BUT everytime I word this e mail, I can't get my words straight for me to sound thankful, and let them know we don't expect gifts at both showers...  Ironically I'm a writer for a magazine and all of a sudden I can't get my words right with this silly e mail....  HELP!

danieliza1127

You don't need to tell them that at all.  It's their choice whether to bring a gift to each or not, you don't need to tell them what to do.  Don't worry about it!

salt78

I don't really think you need to say anything about it.

tlv204

Yeah I wouldn't say anything either.  BIL's fiancee is having 3 showers, all of which I am invited to for some reason, and I was trying to think of a way to word a card explaining that I hope they enjoy the gift I got for the other shower but didn't get them anything for this one, but it just came out all awkward and hopefully unnecessary, so they're just getting a congrats card.

ffmaid

TLV- What I do when invited to multiple showers is buy a gift that can be split up. Last time I bought silverware. They got spoons at one shower, forks at anotehr knives at a third ect. If this occurs again I suggest this method

tlv204

Oooh that's a good idea.  Wish I had thought of that before   I just know BIL is going to  complain (the one with no gift is a couples shower) because he's like that, but we already got them an engagement gift, a different shower gift, and a wedding gift.  We just can't afford another one.

*BeachBride0410*

megan you might want to make a new account with a username that is not your full name.