Am I just being bitter?!?!

sammyjo0320

read above. it was already said that 90% was an exaggerated number.

NuggetBrain

4 is the normal number that comes to a bachlorette How do you know?  Is there a guideline or poll somewhere out there I didn't know about?

laladypoet

actually, my feelings would be super-hurt. that sucks, and I'd be bitter too.have you been a good friend to them? have you shown up for birthdays, showers, housewarmings, etc.? then I don't think it's wrong to expect the same in return.if you're a chitty friend, well...what goes around comes around and all that.

sammyjo0320

is that a serious question? YES i have a FI. but this isnt stuff men understand.

ffmaid

Nugget- I know 4 is not ususual based on the about a dozen bachlorettes I have been to as an adult. In my crowd it is usually between 3-10 friends of teh bride. So 4 is not unusual.Also I see those wacky dressed up wierdo bachlorette parties out and they usually have 2-6 people other then the bride. So that is my basis of 4 mot being unusual.

sammyjo0320

ive been a great friend to all of them. going to every bday party..every baby shower..etc

Night_Sprite

Your FI doesn't understand when you are upset?  Mine would at least listen, even if he had no clue what was going on.

laladypoet

well then, that does suck. I'm not gonna pretend it doesn't. did they give you a reason as to why they couldn't come?

sammyjo0320

he'll always listen..just not necessarily understand every thing i wanna talk to him about. reasons for not coming vary...working..already had plans..etc.

laladypoet

and just a little tip--I think if you didn't have so many ??!! and CAPS, people would be more apt to take this post more seriously. but regardless...do you guys REALLY think it's too much to ask to have friends be at your shower/bach party when you've always been there for them? if there's a legit excuse, well, that's the way things go sometimes. but if they just don't feel like it...really??

laladypoet

wha' happen?

sammyjo0320

dually noted.

redheadfsu

4 - you will have a great time. I understand being upset, we just pulled you down from the crazy  ;)Just get a taxi & have fun with your best friends!

sammyjo0320

you definately knocked the crazy outa me..got my a$$ kicked in here! worked though im over it. who cares if theres only 4 of us...we'll still have the time of our life!

eastunder1

I think it's really funny that people are attacking her for venting here about something that was bothering her as if she was doing something wrong, when everyone else vents here about things that are bugging them all the time.  

sammyjo0320

thank you nice lady

kikibaby

True dat, east.  And usually people are biitching about things like "so and so asks about dresses too much" or "so and so is a bad speller and irritates me".  At least this is wedding related.

duckie1905

is that a serious question? YES i have a FI. but this isnt stuff men understand. Well I'm sorry for you then because even if DH is a man, the basic principle behind having feelings hurt is something he can understand.  I tell him my problems all the time, even girl problems that he doesn't have first hand experience dealing with.and, usually if I explain a situation to him he's smart enough to follow along and comment accordingly.

wadingmoose

Ditto East.  And Lala.  Wise women.

sammyjo0320

usually if I explain a situation to him he's smart enough to follow along and comment accordingly. Congratulations. Athough, I shouldnt have to explain this, as it should just be known..things like this in MY opinion..are easier shared with women.

aerinpegadrak

I'm with the PP who said that the formatting probably contributed to the initial response to the post.  Call me shallow, but if you use excessive punctuation and don't use proper capitalization or spelling, I'm probably going to write you off as immature before I get through your first sentence.  Presentation does matter.I'm glad to see you've calmed down a bit.  Out of curiosity, what was originally planned that you had to cancel because there weren't enough people?  There are very few activities that I can think of that would be simply impossible with fewer than 4 people, and all of them are kind of ridiculous.

sammyjo0320

We had a spa reserved, so nobody else could come in and we need more than 4 people to reserve the place.

duckie1905

Athough, I shouldnt have to explain this, as it should just be known..things like this in MY opinion..are easier shared with women. Well forgive me for suggesting you talk to the person you are going to make a lifetime committment to about whats bothering you.It was just a suggestion.

sammyjo0320

I understand it was just a suggestion. But i decided to biitch to you guys rather than him, my choice.

aerinpegadrak

Ah, that makes sense.  I was thinking things like flag football, human pyramid, bank robbery... 

redheadfsu

Sammy, I like you now. Sorry if I was a rude in the beginning. I agree some of the problem was the caps & punctuation.  But I think everyone needs blatant honesty. (At least I like it)

wadingmoose

Ok, I think we're stretching the things to pick at way too far.  Seriously, telling her she should tell her FI about it?  If you're going to go there, then all of our FI's should really be dealing with everything we post here - right down to what we're having for lunch.We all vent here from time to time.  We all whine.  Stop picking at the new people for the same things every last one of you does.

eastunder1

Well forgive me for suggesting you talk to the person you are going to make a lifetime committment to about whats bothering you.Oh FFS, really?  You've never just vented to your friends or a journal or a message board?  Give me a break. 

sammyjo0320

my point exactly!

eastunder1

As usual, me and moose are one mind.