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In honor of TJ, I want to know what your biggest bridezilla moment has been so far.  I know you had one, because everybody has one.  Even if it was something small like getting upset for a night that the napkins didn't match the dresses perfectly. My BBM was when I flipped out at Noodle for suddenly deciding that he didn't want purple and green as our wedding colors because he suddenly decided he hated the color purple.  My entire room was purple, from the walls to the carpet to the bed, and he never realized that maybe I would want purple in my wedding colors.  It all turned out fine though because we found a color scheme I like better anyways.
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  • I freaked out because I became convinced my FSIL's boyfriend was going to use our reception as an opportune time to propose. I didn't want anyone stealing my thunder. Then I stepped off my pedestal and got over it.
  • I'm not sure it's really a bridezilla moment, but I bawled my eyes out when I realized that there was no way we could afford to pull off our initial plans.  Cried myself to sleep for two nights straight.  I'm really excited about the direction we've taken it, but it was a rough transition.I'm trying my very hardest to be the anti-bridezilla.  We'll see how it turns out.
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  • I was really intense about our invitations.  I was DIYing them, and honestly brought the most up to date version almost everywhere with me to get everyone's opinions.  If people didn't properly fawn over them, I got all worked up after we got home and completely redid them. 
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  • I flipped out at DH because he had arranged all the finances into a way that would make sure everything would get paid for on time but didn't talk to me about it until after the fact. It did all work out but I just wish he would have talked to me before he went and planned how much money I needed to be giving him each week.
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  • I cried on the way home from the florist because I didn't like the sample centerpiece he put together.  I got home and made some changes to it and am now 100% happy with it.  I also had a meltdown about our STDs.  Luckily all of my BZ moments have been very short-lived and I haven't snapped at anyone too badly (yet).
  • I freaked out because I became convinced my FSIL's boyfriend was going to use our reception as an opportune time to propose. I didn't want anyone stealing my thunder. Then I stepped off my pedestal and got over it.Flame away, but honestly I'd be upset about this too. I think it's really selfish and flat out inconsiderate (and in some cases just mean if they realize what they're doing) to propose to someone at someone else's wedding.  I realize a lot of guys just don't realize that it matters to the bride, but they should.  I don't think being less than observant about others emotions like so many guys are is a good enough excuse to think this is ok. Guys get away with way too much because they "just don't get it."
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  • I'm going bridezilla on my sister/moh. She is acting like she has never been in/to a wedding before and questioning EVERYTHING. Why have a bridal shower? Isn't that asking for gifts twice (since people bring gifts to the wedding). ugh. Her latest is that she said she wanted to throw me a personal shower, so I suggested making it a combo personal shower and bachelorette party. She was okay with this. NOW she's going back to her original idea of having a party for my family members that aren't going to be invited to the wedding because 'they won't care, they just want free food and drinks and to celebrate with you' even though I repeatedly keep telling her no eff in way! And as far as the personal shower, she wants to invite her friends, including her gay guy friend, even though none of them are invited either.*sigh*
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  • When my 12-year-old niece (love kids and their honesty) told me the day of the wedding that one of my sisters was making fun of their BM dresses (calling them puke colored) when I went out of my friggin' way to consult with them on what kind of dresses they wanted and allowed them to pick the color (I said anything in the brown/khaki spectrum would work, or they could pick fuschia or orange, and they didn't all have to be the same color.Um (and I'm getting catty now) it would have also been easier to shop for a wider range of dresses if you weren't a size 26.  
  • I definitely agree that proposing AT someone elses wedding is rude.
  • I'm getting ready to have one.Those who read my "picking an apple" mental breakdown may remember the details.I was out in PA for two weeks, we looked at 10+ places. Narrowed it to 6, then down to 2. Next day, it was magically back up to 3. My mother, father, sister and I sat around the kitchen table, and I turned on Skype on the laptop and video'd Buddy in as well. We decided on an apple, all was well.At that point, seriously, we were down to choosing between 3 great options and I was waiting for someone to tell me what to do, to be honest. All were so equally good that the choice literally does not matter, now that it is made.My mother, however, has not yet released the holds on the other two places, and has not put down the deposit at the chosen apple.Why? She wants to make sure that I'm sure.I'm sure. I'M SURE. BOOK IT. PAY THE MAN. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD. OPEN PURSE, REMOVE CHECKBOOK, WRITE. That's the place. It's the place. It's fine. It's good enough. Stop waiting for me to announce my "I knew it my heart THIS was the place" feeling BECAUSE I HAVE NO HEART AND I HAVE NO FEELINGS. BOOK. THE. PLACE.**conversation likely to be held later today.
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  • nothing too bad yet. the worst was when i opened the box of candy scoops i bought off another knottie and they were NOT what i was expecting. i keep telling myself who gives a f about the f'n candy scoops?!
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  • I had one at my sister when we were bridesmaid shopping.She picked up a dress saying she liked it, so I showed it to another BM. She liked it too.  So I took the dress (I had it in another color) and said "Sister would you like to try this on?"  She looked at the dress in disgust and said "No!"  I informed her it was the same dress in another color and she was like "I change my mind".We went to get coffee later and she was snidely asking "Are you making us wear our hair a certain way?"  I said "No, whatever you want, I don't care."  She said "Good, I like my hair like this. (short angled bob)  I said "Oh last year in So-and-so's wedding a girl wore her hair like that, it was really chic!"Sister said she didnt' remember so I said back "That's because nobody pays attention to the bridesmaids."She shut up really quick.
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  • I haven't had a big freak out moment but I'm getting so sick and tired of FMIL drama with everyone that having to hire security for the reception was probably our best investment.  Oh and I'd be upset too if someone proposed at the wedding, or reversing the situation, if I were proposed to at someone else's wedding.  I'd be so embarassed, it's just not the right time. 
  • tlv-I understand what you're saying.  Plus, I wouldn't want to be the person proposed to.  A few people said they thought FI would propose to me last Sept.  We went to AZ for his brother's 50th birthday (huge weekend bash).  While I really wanted to be engaged to FI, I didn't want to take the attention away from his brother.
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  • I'm too far out from my wedding to have had any major bridezilla meltdowns, because we haven't really started putting any of our plans into action yet. But back when we first got engaged, FMIL and I did have a four-month standoff over why in the world I wouldn't want to have a tent wedding in her backyard. It involved at one point, me shrieking "PORTAPOTTIES!!" at FI, and then him telling his mom that we don't want to have the wedding at her house because of the necessity of renting them, which she then interpreted as me needing to check out the bathroom of every venue we visited to make sure they would be up to my standard.All of that is smoothed over now, and FMIL and I are getting along great. She loves that we are getting married in Lucy, and she's making my dress, which is cool.
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  • My invitation fiasco.  DH talked me into allowing his sister to do our invitations.  She was a "stampin it up" person and used to work for a wedding coordinator, so she had experience to make them look nice.  He said I needed to learn to "delegate" things, or I would stress myself out too much.  Fine.  I allowed her to make them.  They were beautiful but there were several little things that were wrong that rubbed me the wrong way.  The addresses were on labels (eww.) and were addressed to Keith and Joan Smith instead of Mr. and Mrs. Smith (even though I sent her a spreadsheet with each of the addresses.  We got a few back in the mail, because of typos and when I opened them up, the ink from the invite had bled into the inserts.Oh yeah, and then she "forgot" to send out like half of them.  And didn't tell me.  My mom started asking where her's was, because I was already getting RSVPs back.  I started calling around and of the 10 people I talked to, 7 hadn't received them.  She said she sent them, so I figured that they were lost in mailland.  I freaked out and spend 3 days frantically making NEW invitations for EVERYONE.  Key to this story:  I was at my MIL's house doing this.  Finally got everything done and sent the replacement invites out, only to find out from MIL that SIL had "forgotten" to send "a few" out, and that they were put in the mail earlier in the week.  Yeah.  MIL found this out WHILE I WAS AT HER HOUSE MAKING THE F'ING INVITATIONS.  I was pissed.  Royally pissed.  DH heard about it.  Luckily I was able not to say anything to MIL or SIL about it.  But, you can believe that nothing else got delegated for the rest of the wedding planning.
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  • I haven't had a bridezilla moment yet, but I can see one coming if my BMs don't get a dress soon.  I thought I was being considerate by just saying the dresses should be floor length and black, but nothing has been bought and with less than 3 months to go we are running short on time.
  • My wedding is in 11 days.  One of my coworkers came in to work sick a couple weeks ago, and I was out half of last week with what he had.  I finally started to feel better and went back to work on Monday, and another coworker was at work sick with a severe sinus infection.  He decided to come and park himself in my cube to tell me about it.  I went home at lunch Monday and told everyone I'm working from home until Thursday because people can't be considerate of others.  I think that was my breaking point.
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  • Best Bridezilla moment happened yesterday when I flipped out after finding out that my FI's brother just got engaged (after 4 months!) to some girl who he sees every weekend if he's lucky.. and they're having the wedding this December before mine ... I'm thoroughly convinced he did this on purpose because that's how he is .. especially considering he was going to elope .. He's a HUGE mommy and daddy's boy.. he comes home every weekend (3 hour drive) to visit his parents and his sister and he's 28. UGH I'm going to get over it but for now im still infuriated. It's totally irrational for me to be upset. I think I'm stressed about other things.
  • Tide, that was my biggest fear, and why I spent like 6 hours a day perfecting mine.  I definitely did overstress myself, but I'm convinced now that they were perfect :)
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  • To be clear, I'm not excited about the idea that he might propose at my wedding, but my options are pretty limited, no? I think calling him and saying, "so just in case you're planning on proposing at my wedding... DON'T" is just... yeah, no I can't see myself doing that. I think if it happens my reception isn't suddenly going to turn into an engagement party. But if it does I'm sending him half the bill. (I kid! I kid!)
  • anna I'm six weeks out and one of my BMs has no dress yet. :-)
  • The funny thing was that "delegating" the responsibility was supposed to relieve my stress.  Instead it only multiplied it.
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  • Ha manda yeah you're right, there's not much you can do about it. I just have a tendency to get really worked up about people doing inconsiderate or stupid things, and the less control I have over it (i.e. parents not letting kids watch Obama's speech, other people doing rude things at their weddings, etc.) the more upset I get, because I can't do anything about it.  Its' a terrible affliction.
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  • Last night was a shiit storm.  I got a RSVP back from FI's uncle.  They said 5 were coming (only expecting 4).  So FI is on the phone with his dad while talking to me.  It sorta went like this:cm- So what did they say?FI- Dad's saying that its my cousin's girlfriend and they want us all to meet her.cm- I don't want to meet her!!FI- Then they said that they all booked a flight.cm- WELL TELL THEM TOUGH SHIIT!!! THEY SHOULD OF READ THE FUUCKING RSVP.Yeah...
  •  thought I was being considerate by just saying the dresses should be floor length and black, but nothing has been bought and with less than 3 months to go we are running short on time.This is exactly what I told my BM's to choose and I am 3 weeks out and one doesn't have a dress yet.
  • I went BSC because I ran out of envelopes, even though I ordered 25 extra, and no one would order more for me and I wanted help. I went nuts for a good solid 20 minutes.
  • Another couple that we are friends with got engaged around the same time we did.  We fell in love with a venue and we booked it at around 1 year and I told our friends how much I loved it. So about a month ago i get a message from the friends that got engaged around the same time we did telling me they booked the same venue (their wedding is in July and ours in June).  It ticked me off, I did not say anything to her because in the back of my mind I know it is not a big deal, but still it irritated me.  i called my FI, MOH and mom and complained till it was out of my system.  I figured at least they would be using it after my wedding.
  • Over bridesmaid dresses.Several months ago, I tried suggesting several different dresses to them (all black, floor-length, satin) which they all either had something they disliked about them or ended up just never responding to my calls/emails so that we could pick on (or heck, 3.  I don't care if they are the exact same dress.)Finally gave up and calmly explained to them that they can pick any dress on the planet that they want, just so long as it's black and floor-length and preferably satin (evening wedding in the middle of winter), but if they find another material that they love, just let me know.Has anyone looked?  Nope.Got a text the other day: "Not finding anything in any of the dept stores...wish we would've been able to order some bridesmaids dresses instead!"You don't say?I flipped (in the privacy of my bedroom in front of only FI) and then realized, it reallllly doesn't matter.  Show up in a black dress? WONDERFUL.  Show up in a green polka-dotted dress?  I will love you from your seat...in the pews.
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  • No bridezilla moment here yet but then again I'm still over 10 months out and haven't delved into a lot of the details yet.  I mentioned my indecisiveness over napkin colour earlier today but that's been all in my head up until now.  I've been pretty laid back about everything so far, almost too much for my FI's liking at times, so I don't expect to have any moments in the future either.I think one of the advantages to being a second time bride is that I've already had the perfect day, so to speak, and I have no desire to recreate it.  The actual wedding day is such a small detail of the marriage, other than the legal aspect of it obviously.  I've used the "do I remember what I did for the first wedding?" as a thermometer.  If I don't remember a particular detail of my own wedding only 14 years ago, it can't be all that important.
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