Charity Donation as Favors

glittygal902

What is everyone's idea of donating to cancer research for the wedding favors. My father passed away last year after battling leukemia for 2 years. I wanted to honor him in the wedding but also help out the charity too. I'm getting mixed opinions about this, so I wanted to know what everyone else though. Thank You

Brie2010

Nope.  It's not a favor to your guests to donate to a charity you like.  They may not like it.My father died of leukemia, too.  We're making a private donation to start our marriage AND giving our guests real favors.

MissSarah786

I personally see nothing wrong with it, but some people do.Because of your father, I would do it and I think everyone would understand and know why.

[Deleted User]

First, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad and I think that donating to a charity is a lovely way to honor him. That being said, donations in lieu of favors are obnoxious to me unless you are also asking your guests to donate to a charity in lieu of wedding gifts. Favors aren't necessary, so just don't do them and donate in your own private way.

aimerzkd214

I think it is great to give to caner research but not for wedding favors.  my dad has MS and I want to start contributing to research but i feel giving it has a wedding favor would make it seem like I am saying look at me I gave money for something good pat me on the back.

ggmae

I don't have an issue with it either. There was a similar post last night as well if you want to check that out.

glittygal902

I wouldn't word it as a donation as been made in your name in case some people didn't want it, but I would state it the my FH and I have made it. I was also thinking to put only a card at each table instead of at each table setting and still getting traditional favors as well. I saw a nice on at http://www.aicr.org/images/content/pagebuilder/18844.jpgLet me know what you think.Thanks

Leah&Christian09

Making the donation is a great idea. Favors aren't necessary, and won't be missed. So doing the donation instead of favors is fine. It is not a favor, it is instead of the favor. Just don't pass out cards or print it anywhere, and don't get the charity to pay for little trinkets so you can show off that you made a donation. No one needs to know about it, and bragging about it cheapens the gesture.

Brie2010

Just make the donation and don't announce it.Seriously, it just comes off as "look at how great we are!"  I was at a wedding where the B&G donated to a charity I strongly disagree with.  While I like this charity's goals, I hate how they go about achieving them.  It bothered me and seemed really AW-ish.

glittygal902

How would I still honor my father in the wedding without it being stated?

Leah&Christian09

Honor your father with a nice note about him in your programs.

aimerzkd214

Honor him in another way, have a special flower or trinket in your bouquet for him, have a flower placed on what would have been  his seat or have him listed in your program, I am sure there are more ideas but that is what I ccan think of. Plus rreminding everybody at your wedding that your father passed away form cancer may be a downer,

mandysmear

Great way to honour your father if you really believe in the cause.Is it donation favor week or what?  This has gotta be at least the 3rd question asked lately.

Brie2010

I am carrying my father's picture on my bouquet.

amybw

This must be a regional thing, because most of the weddings i go to do donations.  It doesn't have to be called a favor, but you can still let people know its in honor of your wedding and in remebering your father. I think its a great idea, and people don't need favors that they might just leave there or throw away.  I say, if this is what you want to do, go for it.  People will not be offended, especially to a donation for cancer research.

danieliza1127

I think if you want to donate to a charity then you should because you want to.  It doesn't have to relate to your wedding though, and it shouldn't be considered a gift or favor to your guests.  Your donation should be private and done because you want to, not as a way to show off to your guests or honor your dad.  If you really want to honor your dad, you can tie a locket with his picture to your bouquet or have an arrangement of flowers at the ceremony in his honor, or have a picture of him with a candle lit - those things are ways to honor him and his meaning in your life, not a charity donation.

chamrads

I'm actually suprised to see so much opposition to the donation-favor idea.  I was actually also thinking about doing this...and for the same thing (many family members have faught cancer battles) so I wanted to honor those people and think of a better place to put the money than into mint wrappers with our names on them.  I think favors are cute, but an unecessary expense that most guests won't miss.I'm glad you posted this glitty...I never would have known that such a thing could be seen as a "bragging" moment.  I personally don't see anything wrong with it -- and neither do the few people I have asked about it.  I also would think most people attending know you well, and would understand and respect why it is you choose to make the donations.GL!

amybw

chamrads - i agree, i have never heard of people disliking this before i went on the knot.  I'm doing a donation and putting something at each place setting saying that we have made a donation to the American Cancer Society in honor of our wedding.  There's nothing that will change my mind about doing this or thinking it's not a good idea.